Eve- as far as the no reconstruction goes... my Dr.s said at the time (2001) that i wasn't a good candidate, since they had gone into my chest muscle fairly deep... at that time i just wanted to get thru the treatment and get on with it, and i was not capable of making a rational decision anyway (diep flap? tram flap? implants? take fat from my butt? what? etc etc) so i figured i'd just put it off til i was ready (hubby was fine with that). Then, as time went on, i just was so focused on making it to 5 years, i didn't want to spend time with a huge surgery and recovery time... and thats where i left it. Hubby is resigned to the fact now, and has never given me any problems about it. (i just tell him 'hey at least i'm here!'). i was large breasted, 40D
as for the hot flashes, i would say they are stronger than when i was in chemo-manopause, but not that much. caffeine, spicy foods, and alcohol late in the day will cause me to have 2 or 3 strong ones at night, but thats the worst of it.
"It's been worth everything I've been through,
To do what I do"
To Do What I Do -Alan Jackson, 2004