Is there a "man law"...

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   Posted 1/18/2007 5:45 PM (GMT -7)   
that says that "any man who is on a diet must cheat"???
I mean, he sits on his pity potty and says, "you know I'm going to die soon, don't you?"  And then when you ask him what he had to eat today, along with what he's supposed to have, he says, "and I only had three canes at the office this afternoon."  Or, "I only ate a few hershey kisses today."  Or oyster crackers or peanuts or whatever his indiscretion of the day is.  Hello.  You're gut is in danger of exploding here, and you're having candy canes. 
I want to just go buy a crave case of Whities and a bag of fries and say, "Let's just put you out of misery the easy way.  When you get this down, I'll just stick a fork in you and call you done."
Geez!  At least I know SOME people who have a will to live!
The real problem is, he's probably losing weight despite his cheating, and then I'll have to hear,"I told you a few candy canes wouldn't hurt me."  I will be so pissed!
Love and hugs, friends...

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   Posted 1/19/2007 6:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Bev, I had a friend with a husband she was having the same fight with. Every time he cheated she would go out and get in the car and drive off. Finally he asked her where she was going. Her reply was she was shopping for cemetery plots. She told him if he was willing to work so hard to get there she wanted to make sure he had a nice location. She bought their plots and when ever he starts to cheat on his diet again she gets in her car...his obvious next question is what are you shopping for now. She told him... "take a ride with me instead of eating the candy and I will show you". She took him to the plots and told him since his life style was preparing him rapidly for this location, she was getting in the habit of driving out there and thinking of it as his new home. Since he put down the candy and came with her, he was on this side of the grass for another day. It worked for him He has lost 75 lbs. Don't know if shock therapy works with your dh or not but I know after a million fights this one worked for her. I have to be honest here. On the way home I would ask for dh to stop at the bakery. Never know what works. Good luck
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   Posted 1/19/2007 9:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Wow, what a great response.  Can I use that story???????
It is something! 
Bev, I'm sorry you're going through this.  Al-anon helped me with that feeling of helplessness, but read above!  That's a great response!!!!!!!
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius
Don't knock on Death's Door.  Ring the bell and run.  He hates that.


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   Posted 1/19/2007 12:14 PM (GMT -7)   
(((Bev))) Sorry this is such a struggle. But, as someone who also has a weight problem, I know how hard it is to shed those excess pounds. Hang in there with him, though. The struggle will be worth it in the long run. H & L, Lauri
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   Posted 1/19/2007 7:26 PM (GMT -7)   
I can tell you, for sure, what will happen if he keeps cheating. You will wake up one morning like I did. If he can't relate to that, tell him he can either go to the ER to have a foot taken out of his ***, the coroner's office in a body bag, or do what he has to to be sure he's around for years to come.

Sometimes, it takes a sledge hammer to make them see sense.

Love you, sweetie, Jo-Ann
A good friend will bail you out of jail...
but a true friend will be sitting
next to you saying,
"Dâmn... that was fun!".

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   Posted 1/20/2007 5:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, he did manage to drop 7 pounds, despite his cheating. That is a good thing. Jo-Ann, while he likes to sit on the pity potty and tell me he's gonna die soon, I don't think he actually believes he's in that badda shape.

Joyce, I loved your suggestion. Just the idea of me burying him might straighten him up, though. He is so claustraphobic that I'm to cremate him. Knowing I'm going to plant him in the ground if he doesn't shape up might just do the trick! LOL

At least he lost something.

Love and hugs and thanks for the replies...
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