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Date Joined Mar 2007
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   Posted 3/14/2007 10:59 PM (GMT -7)   
  My mom has had breast cancer now since around december 2005 and is actually doing well with treatment. I'm just scared that I will get it though, not for what it would do to me, but for what my getting it would mean to my children. I dont have kids yet, but that idea just scares me. The last thing that ever worried me was my mom or I getting breast cancer, no one in our family ever had it before so it came out of left field. I just worry every day that she is going to get sick again and that puts me in perpetual terror and gives me great anxiety all the time. I dont know what I would do without her around, and in the same year she was diagnosed a friend of mine died unexpectantly from a brain tumor that went undiagnosed till he was in a coma in the hospital and then they ran an MRI to find out what it was that made him sick. I just feel like cancer is this thing that is going to take everyone that I love away from me. I dont  really know yet how to cope with the fear and I was wondering if there was anyone out there who felt the same way, there probably is, I just sometimes feel really scared and alone.

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Date Joined Jul 2003
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   Posted 3/15/2007 7:26 AM (GMT -7)   

Having family and friends that have or have had cancer is a scary thing.  The knowledge that all of us can have cancer is not a welcome realization.  You cannot let fear paralyze you throughout your life.  My suggestion to you is to research as much as you can about the cancers you know about. Also read literature from the American Cancer Society, Breast Cancer organizations etc.  The more you know the more powerful you become and less fearful.  It seems we always fear that which we do now understand.  You are not alone as many of this boards memberhip will tell you. 

It sounds like your Mother is doing well.  Take comfort in that.  I did not have any family history of breast cancer either.  My daughter knows that she needs to be diligent in her breast care as I have survived cancer but she also knows that the type of breast cancer I had (there are 15 types of breast cancer) she will likely never develop.

Early detection of any type of illness is key.  Be consistent in check-ups from a doctor you trust.  If you do have a doctor that you trust and they know your history and mother's ask him/her about the cancer and what you need to do to protect yourself and be pro-active.

Talk with your Mother.  She is your best advocate, other than you, that is.  Try to be close to her and listen to what she can tell you about her physical and emotional being.  It will help you to know and help her to talk about what she is going through.

If you are a spiritual person, pray and have discussions with the spirit within you.  For me, the power of prayer, is the ultimate consolation and counsel.

Good luck and I will have you and your Mother in my prayers.




Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: if one falls down, his friend can help him up.  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

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