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Date Joined May 2007
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   Posted 5/6/2007 7:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello.  I was just diagnosed with stage II breast cancer on Thursday.  I don't know anyone with breast cancer so am hoping to talk to others that understand.  I'm scared and overwhelmed right now.  Not even sure what to say.

Post Edited (twingram) : 5/6/2007 8:12:43 AM (GMT-6)

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Date Joined Jul 2003
Total Posts : 2921
   Posted 5/6/2007 7:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi, sorry to hear you have had to join our club. No one ever wants to hear those words. One of the first things we tell everyone is to get and keep copies of your reports. Ask for a copy of the path report and/or the radiologists report. That will tell you a lot more information than the doctor's telling you. I'm sure you have discussed treatment or will soon. Get all those details and come back and let us help you understand or make suggestions. The core of this group has been together for nearly ten years. We have many new members who have recently had treatment. As you probably can guess, treatment has advanced quite a bit in ten years, but that doesn't make having breast cancer any less frightening when you are first diagnosed. Please share your first name and the area where you live. You can find out more about us in the Roll Call on the thread page. Hug, Mary K. MK is easier.

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 5/6/2007 7:25 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning

Welcome to Healing Well and I am Kitt.  I have several close friends (5) that have breast cancer, two with bilateral mastectomies.  They are alive and well and living very productive and happy lives.

I know once you hear the big C word you don't remember anything after that when the Doctor is talking. That is very normal and you have every right to be scared.

You have come to the right place as there are many members  here that have vast knowledge of their disease and you will find support and answers to your questions.

Gentle Hugs

RN CCRN, Critical Care and Emergency Department Manager for 26 years.
Depression 25 years, Husband Crohns Disease 30 years
My Father and 5 siblings all died of Cancer. It is a subject close to my heart to help people with Cancer.
"If you doubt you can accomplish something, then you can’t accomplish it. You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through.”
Rosalyn Carter

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Date Joined Jul 2003
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   Posted 5/6/2007 8:00 AM (GMT -7)   

MK has given you very good advise. Please keep informed and do as much research you can on breast cancer. Knowledge is power and it beats back the fear.

Keep us up to date and do not hesitate to ask us questions. Someone or many will have the answer for you.

I will have you in my thoughts and prayers,

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: if one falls down, his friend can help him up.  Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

New Member

Date Joined May 2007
Total Posts : 3
   Posted 5/6/2007 8:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you MK, Kitt and Candy. My name is Lou. It feels good just knowing there are people out there that understand. I don't feel so alone now. I already have all of my films (mammos, ultrasound, MRI) but will get copies of all the reports. I see the surgeon this week and will go from there.

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Date Joined Apr 2007
Total Posts : 45
   Posted 5/6/2007 10:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Welcome Lou.  The only thing I can add is that we know and we care - we can empathize and have probbably had many of the same feelings.
Peace, love and understanding,
~ Peace, love and understanding ~

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Date Joined Dec 2004
Total Posts : 8
   Posted 5/9/2007 8:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lou, I am in almost the same place as you having just been diagnosed. Although I have already had the lumpectomy on 4-27-07. The sentinel lymph node was negative so the cancer did not spread to the lymph nodes. I am now in the process of scheduling consultations with oncologists to determine the next steps. Sounds like treatment will include chemotherapy followed by radiation. Do you feel comfortable sharing the details of your diagnosis, such as the type of breast cancer or size, etc. Not sure if you know this info yet. Mine is invasive (infiltrating?) ductal carcinoma and was 3.1 cm in size. the surgery was not bad. Recovery went well and today I am in hardly any pain at all. Didn't take any pain killers either, even though they prescribed them. I am 39 yrs. old and live in suburb of Chicago. I'm married and have a 2 year old boy. Look forward to hearing more about you. Please keep posting here as the women (and some husbands here as well) are wonderful sources of information and support!!!


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   Posted 5/9/2007 11:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lou:
Firstly, sorry you had to join the club that no one wants to be a member of.  Glad you found us, though.  This site was very helpful to me when I was going through treatment.  I started when I found out like you did.  Please bring a tape recorder and a friend with you to the doctor's so you can retain the info.  If you post what you're going through here, someone has probably got some experience to share with you.
Please know you're on a great site.  Our breast friends are great!!!
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius
Don't knock on Death's Door.  Ring the bell and run.  He hates that.


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Date Joined Jul 2003
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   Posted 5/9/2007 5:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Twingram-
I was a stage IIA diagnosed in late 1999 and have been cancer free ever since. THis is definitely a horribly frightening time, no doubt about that. Everyone may have different advice....mine is to not let anyone tell you how you WILL feel or how you WILL have to behave. There is no right answer here....I can tell you that for me, knowledge was power. I read what I could and researched what I could so that I could understand the doctors and ask the right questions. And a tape recorder was a godsend for me. I took a list of questions and later listened to the recorded session so that I could absorb and write down answers. I got second opinions and took control of whatever I could control. And be prepared for some tough days...don't expect them, but prepare by knowing that it is OK if you feel mad or scared or whatever you is all ok.

Survival rates are incredibly high for stage II, and chemo is tolerable. Rads for me was a piece of cake. Nothing is as bad as they make it seem on tv.

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