Hi Suzy, sorry for your news. We can all feel your pain...and we can tell you that it will ease up over time. Right now the emotions are raw and there is so much to think about
and learn about
...and before you know it, you'll be in control and feeling like you are in a much better place. My advice is to learn as much as you can so you can make informed decisions...but learn it in small doses so as not to overwhelm yourself. You may want to wait till you have more info before telling the kids...this way you'll know the plan as far as surgery and chemo or other medications, and you'll know how to answer their questions. For me, knowledge was power. Once I learned enough and started making appointments and taking charge, I was much better able to talk about
it with others.
Take one day at a time and surround yourself with what feels good. Ask us lots of questions and take your husband or friend to your doctors' appointments, along with a tape recorder.
And since you know you have had trouble with depression, be sure to talk to your doctor about
that and keep it from sliding out of control.