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Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 1
   Posted 7/14/2007 2:36 PM (GMT -7)   
  Hello, my name is Holley and I'm 41. I recently had a modified radical mast. 3 of 15 nodes positive for cancer. My first chemo is 7-19 and it will last 16 weeks, with 52 shots of nuelastin. I have 3 kids. Nikole is 24, Aimee is 17 and Patrick is 15, great kids. They take care of me while my husband is working. I've had to quit my job and i'm starting to go crazy, no one to talk too except my family,do they really understand or are they just being nice.
I fixed the subject for you, Holley, so it would lead more to your message. MK

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Veteran Member

Date Joined Jul 2003
Total Posts : 1564
   Posted 7/14/2007 8:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, Holley.  I'm so sorry you've had to join this group, but if you have to be a part, this is a great group of ladies to be with.  Cancer is scarey.  I was 36 at dx, had a mastectomy and 3/13 nodes positive.  I went through chemo for 6 months.  And I'm happy to say I've been "no evidence of disease" (NED, we call it) for 12 years. 
I'll be honest here.  No, your family probably doesn't understand.  And friends won't, either.  And no, they are not just being nice.  They are trying hard to be strong and supportive and positive.  But inside, they are just as scared as you are...if not more!  And they are probably not used to seeing you scared and vulnerable. 
When I was diagnosed, I didn't know anyone else my age who had cancer.  I felt very alone.  How I wish I'd had the internet back then, and this board.  So visit often.  We've all been through what you're going through, and we're here to help, if we can. 
May I ask why you had to quit your job? 
Hang in there, Holley.  This is a bummer, for sure, and while it may seem like the end of the world right now, life does go on.  And life is good!
Hugs to a new friend...
Don't worry about the world coming to an end today. It's already tomorrow in Australia.  -Charles Schulz

Regular Member

Date Joined Mar 2005
Total Posts : 239
   Posted 7/14/2007 8:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome Holley,this is the best bunch of ladies.They helped me so much as i was going through my breast cancer journey.And they still help whenever i need them.You will be in my prayers,stay possitive that is so important.Also get a journal and write in it when you feel like it.It really helps.I was so scared to get my first chemo treatment but it wasnt that bad.Keep in contact with the ladies here they are like my Angels, and we all know what you are going through.God Bless, Tammy

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Date Joined Jul 2003
Total Posts : 2921
   Posted 7/15/2007 7:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Holley, we are here to help in any way we can. Come here any time you want some company and let it out. What part of the country do you live in? It is possible one of us could even be near enough to meet you for lunch and visit in person. You can see pictures in the Roll call above, although it might be quite a search for them. My daughter and I both have breast cancer. Mine has been quiet for nearly 11 years. She recently had a recurrence but is doing well on the drugs and treatment prescribed. There are all ages of women here. I am the oldest at 68. We live in north central TX. Please feel free to come and talk. Hugs MK

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Date Joined Oct 2004
Total Posts : 826
   Posted 7/15/2007 4:01 PM (GMT -7)   


We all know how you are feeling right now.  I was home for 12 weeks when I was first diagnosed and went through my lumpectomy and then mastectomy.  If it weren't for these ladies, I would have gone nuts.  They virtually held my hand all the way and it was such a relief to have them with me.  We will all be here for you to hold your hand and answer your many questions.  Don't be afraid to ask anything.  Chances are, someone has been through it or knows someone who has.  Try to keep a positive attitude.  It makes all the difference in the world.

L & H,

Regular Member

Date Joined Sep 2006
Total Posts : 248
   Posted 7/15/2007 9:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Holley,
I just found out about my breast cancer, I go in on Tuesday for an MRI. I know how you are feeling, I've very worried about how I'm going to feel if I have to start any treatments, I'm expecting I will. On one hand Tuesday is not getting here fast enough, on the other I don't mind waiting!

Regular Member

Date Joined May 2006
Total Posts : 89
   Posted 7/23/2007 6:50 PM (GMT -7)   
I know this is a scary time for you. We are all here for you and will help you with love and support. I found the past year and half that I have been battling this that nobody can really understand what we are going through unless they have been through it themselves. Remember to keep your sense of humor and know that you are now involved in a very special sisterhood with so many women. Just remember that you are a WARRIOR!!!
The true joy of life is in the journey

Regular Member

Date Joined May 2007
Total Posts : 169
   Posted 7/24/2007 3:11 PM (GMT -7)   
I am new to this board but not new to the forum, i AM USUALLY in the Crohns forum...But after going to the doctor today, She felt a lump, and am schedled to mee with the surgeon....The reason I am freaking out so soon is I have a history of lumps and 19 I had a brain tumor....thank goodness it was benign but the size of a 33 dx with crohns disease, and 5 years ago thyroid cancer...seizures all my life that are not caused from the brain tumor.
Now this, I am 45 years old...and have been dealing with severe crohns may I started a new drug for crohns called humira, now with this lump in my breast and the lump she also found under my arm pit, I can't take humira anylonger...and it has worked where nothing other then prednisone did.

So, I am so scard.
because of my health history, I don't know why I have to see a surgeon right away...wouldnt they have me have an ultr sound or mammo??????my gyny found it during an exam.

becasue of the other things going on in my life I put off having going to the gyny...and I am ASHAMED to say havn't had a mammo in a long time.

anything I should know??????
Brain tumor 1981
Dx.Crohns 1996
resecction 2001
Thyroid cancer 2001
seizure disorder .....all my life.
What you may think makes you fact makes you STRONG!!

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