I just can't think of anything but Cancer

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Date Joined Oct 2007
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   Posted 10/28/2007 6:32 AM (GMT -7)   
I have known for about a month that I have or should I say HAD breast cancer, had a lumpectomy 2 1/2 weeks ago. All I do is think about cancer and try to read and understand everything about it. Sometimes it takes over and I find that it all I've done all day. I'm sooo scared and cry alot. I sread the treatments and getting sick and losing my hair and everything. Family and friends just can't understand. Thanks for all you who can understand

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   Posted 10/29/2007 6:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi....I am so sorry to hear about your situation. Everyone here is great and gives honest feedback. You will definitely find support here. Is there maybe a support group at your hospital?? Or maybe a social worker or advocate there can direct you? It may help ease your anxiety a bit....I am not in your situation, but I do know that being around others who are going through the same thing can be so beneficial. Please take care and let us know how you are!!

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   Posted 10/30/2007 6:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Chicken...those of us who've had BC know just how you feel...I remember those anxious days! Next month I will mark my 8 year anniversary....there is hope! I used to dream of the day when I would wake up and realize that the day before, I had no thoughts of cancer....having scars and physical changes makes that impossible...so I changed my focus. Instead of trying to not think of cancer, I realized it was part of me...and instead of fighting it, embrace it. It is part of me, physically and emotionally, but I just accept it. I realized my goal needed to be that I was OK with thoughts of cancer.........I could not fight it. Once I made peace with it, life was better.

But you are not there yet. My advice is that if the thoughts are negative and overwhelming and persistent and taking over your daily life, then it is time to seek professional help. It is normal to have bouts of it now and then, but when it becomes too much, it is ok to seek help....perhaps just for a short time period, but you might need a little help to get you over the hump of the stress.

Try backing away from the reading and internet and find non-cancer things to do....
Hang in there!

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   Posted 11/1/2007 7:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi chicken- I can really relate. For all intents and purposes I am cancer free as well but worry a good amount of the time. I waiver in and out but ever ache, pain or pinch I think cancer has overtaken my body and it will be the end shortly. I'm not really a pessimist and don't think like that all of the time but it's hard not to let it in. How do we stop this?? Any advice would be helpful. I feel you and you're not alone. I've always read that after the disease was gone was one of the toughest points. Crazy huh? We go through all of the nonsense and then after it's gone is the hardest? It's a crazy thing...


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   Posted 11/2/2007 5:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for replying. It is already getting better. Halloween was here and I had a great time. I;m also not in much pain so I can forget for a time and everything is normal. Someday. I'll write again.

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   Posted 11/16/2007 7:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Chicken,
I am based in Singapore and like doing some simple food recipes I found on the net. i stumbled upon a blog website and was quite an avid reader of this blog. She stopped blogging for a year and now she blogged back. teh one year of absence was due to her having breast cancer. Reading her blog (she is positive an I'm happy she has the support of her loved ones) is really encouraging.
I hope to share her blog here. It was also her who introduce the same doc that I seek a 2nd opinion from. I do not really know who she is, as I knew her only from teh blog. She takes nice pictures too. I hope reading her blog makes you and everyone feel at least somehow better.

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   Posted 11/16/2007 10:59 AM (GMT -7)   
Please tell us your name!
Thank you for telling us where you're at.  I know that roller coaster.  You're vulnerable now, remember.  There are many things to think about, but remember your decisionmaking may be impacted by this whole experience. 
My husband was no help either.  Almost left him.  I found this site instead, and had wonderful help.  One gal was going through chemo and radiation at the exact same intervals I was, and we were really close online.  It was a wonderful wonderful resource for me.
Little things:  don't spend too much money right now.  yOu're not dead or dying, the bills will need to be addressed!
There's also castingforrecovery.com and chemoangels.com.  People have given to the cause of making you more comfortable and letting you feel loved.  Let them do it for you.  Look at my post.
Do something for yourself.  Write back.
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." -Confucius
Don't knock on Death's Door.  Ring the bell and run.  He hates that.


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   Posted 11/16/2007 3:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for asking, My name is carol and i'm from rochester, ny I start chemo on nov. 26 and im more nervous the closer it gets but I can do it.
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