hello frances, this sounds all too familiar to me. i too have great difficulty in all basic personal care and household chores. If i did them all i would have no energy at all left. I would also be a quivering wreck on the floor.
I have employed my mum to do the housework (i wouldn't like a stranger knowing too much about me and my illness) not to mention it is nice to spend time with her.
As for my personal care - it would be a full time job to do it all each day so i have been forced to make sacrifices. If i bath or shower i am unable to shave and wash hair and if i do the others i have to make do with a 'cats lick' (as my nan would call it) with baby wipes. (while seated) Even teeth brushing is exhausting.
This is really embarrasing to admit to but this illness has reduced to to it.
I also found that i could wash if i sat in a chair covered in a towel, with my feet in a bowl (soap and flannel to hand)
It also ttakes me around 45 minutes to dress - so youre not alone friend.
If you need to talk - im here
You take good care