Neuro,
I am so sorry to hear of your terrible pain, and your husband's surgery on top of it. Truly, you cannot worry about the condition of your house...in the whole scheme of things, it's just not important. That being said, I can understand how you feel, as I would be the same.
Does your family know what you and your husband have been going through? If not, I would tell them how you feel about everything...if they are understanding, great, and if not, you've got too much on your plate to worry about it.
I wish you the best of luck...I hope the shots help with your pain, and that your husband's surgery is successful. Please post and let me know how it all goes--I'm saying a prayer for you. God bless!!!!!!