My First Post Here

Hello, everyone. I finally decided to seek out a forum because I could use the support and interaction with a community of people who understand.

I'm not sure if I have CFS, but I've have been having health problems for roughly a year and a half, maybe more. I've had lots of blood tests, allergy tests, MRIs, a CT scan, x-rays, an EEG, and more. Still no real answers. One doctor thinks it's CFS. I've taken a break from doctors for now as the thought of another round of this is just overwhelming.

I'm only in my early twenties. Before all this, I was athletic. I was a gymnast and a circus performer. I have a 4.0 GPA after three years of college. I had a job, friends, a boyfriend I loved, and a future. I don't really have any of those things anymore, and many of them I worked very hard for.

I think my breaking point in joining this forum was a few days ago when the one person I thought understood how hard things have been and cared about my problems revealed his true thoughts and responded to my health problems by saying, "Boo ******* hoo." (Sorry, I hope it's not inappropriate in the forum if I use asterisks to replace a certain rude word. Wouldn't want to be kicked out on my first post!)

Anyway, I hope to find more understanding people here, and I hope to be here to support others once I get a little more acquainted.

Thank you for the welcome and kind words, Denise. I'm glad you got a diagnosis on your second round. I hear about so many people not getting answer for years, which I can understand since there are so many possibilities. I'm also getting especially fed up with doctors not listening and telling me to my face that they don't believe me about things or that they don't want to hear about my symptoms. Obviously those doctors are a waste of my time and energy, but I haven't got much to waste in the first place, so it's very discouraging.

Sorry to hear your story, too. I'm not sure anyone can understand if they haven't experienced it, but it's nice when people try. It's understandable not to be happy about illness, I don't think I ever will be either, but it takes strength to come to terms with it, so it's good that you could do that.

Dear Flipped, Jeez, I just realized my last post sounds so confident and optimistic!! Maybe that's a good thing, but really, this disease is terrible. I have lost friends; I have lost money; I feel like I'm climbing uphill to get thru a day. I am lucky to work just half-time, but even so, I have to call in sick at least twice a month.

Carrie, you are so right & that is very good advice: to accept it & go from there. But we do have a tendency to fight it, don't we. I have accepted it but still find myself overdoing, I guess it depends on if I find it worth it or not. It is a trade off sometimes. I, also, agree with you about the grieving process. That is another obstacle we have to overcome. It is hard enough to have an illness to deal with but to add all of this on top of it is just too much sometimes.

Welcome to the forum. it is nice to meet you. Hugs, Denise

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Fibromyalgia-dx'd: 2006, ME/CFS-dx'd: 2006, Holt-Oram Syndrome dx'd 1975, reduced lung capacity dx'd 2009, nasal allergies, food allergies, depression (lifetime problem) IBS, neuropathy in hips

I have 4 children & 7 grandchildren.

As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it. Prov. 25:11

Carrie- I have learned that I have to be very assertive with doctors. I have gone into offices with paper printed out that list all my symptoms, the degree to which I have them, all the tests I've had, all the doctors I've already seen, etc. As for explaining to people, they still do not understand or seem to care. I explained everything about how I was feeling to parents for a year while they just said things like, "If you just go out and do things, you'll feel better," which you know is not the case. Now they believe something is wrong, but they still are not understanding about it. That's a different story though. That sounds very frustrating about your insurance though. I'm sorry to hear that and also sorry to hear about your condition. I'm glad some people have at least responded positively.

It is good advice to accept it and grieve. It's just hard when it's not something you want to accept.

Denise, yes a diagnosis sounds nice, but I feel like nothing is still ever a definite. Plus, the one doctor who thought it might be CFS has left and may not return to practice. When I get some strength back, I am going to go to a doctor who does both Western and alternative medicine. I'm just dreading going back to doctors and tests, especially now that I feel more alone than ever with no one really there to comfort me or understand. You guys are so positive, and here I am being all negative :-/ I just need to get it all out in this thread so I can then be more positive.

Carrie, I would love a personal assistant, the closest I can come is the app on my phone, otherwise I have to do for myself. I live with my daughter, Misty (she is disabled w/Lupus, schleraderma, dermatomyocytus, RA & Fibro) & my 2 grandchildren, so I do keep busy some, with the house & I make dinner a couple times a week. Otherwise I lead a very sedentary life. I live in a small town so ordering groceries online is not something I can do but I am so happy you can do this & I wish I could. I agree, with finding ways to do everything as simply as possible. I love my crock pot, we can put something in it in the morning & have dinner at night. We make big pots of soup & stews. I bought a Roomba vacuum cleaner to clean my floors & it works great but now with the kids & their stuff on the floor I haven't been able to just start it & off it goes, have to have them pick everything up first. Sometimes that is just too much for me so I will let it go.

This is a place that we can be ourselves & support each other. no one really can understand our illness except those who also have it. Take care, hugs, Denise

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Fibromyalgia-dx'd: 2006, ME/CFS-dx'd: 2006, Holt-Oram Syndrome dx'd 1975, reduced lung capacity dx'd 2009, nasal allergies, food allergies, depression (lifetime problem) IBS, neuropathy in hips

I have 4 children & 7 grandchildren.

As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it. Prov. 25:11

Carrie, Absolutely, you do not have to be embarrassed about your home or your illness. It did take me about the same length of time to get to a point of acceptance. I have always thought I was just slow on the uptake & slow to learn. lol! But maybe that is just the natural progression of the mourning & acceptance. We can't help having this illness nor did we ask for it. I used to be so frustrated at what needed to be done & what I couldn't do but now am much more calm about it all.

Another thing I bought myself is a steam cleaner for my kitchen & bathroom floors. It is so light & easy to use. It takes very little energy to use because it is not heavy. I use it quickly on my floors & know they are clean because the steam kills bacteria & germs. Makes me know I am living in a clean house. My daughter bought a hand steamer & we use that to clean the bathroom & shower. You can steam door knobs & counters too. Easy & quick. You can steam clothes with it too, it takes me too much energy to iron.

I hope you are feeling well. Many hugs, Denise

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Fibromyalgia-dx'd: 2006, ME/CFS-dx'd: 2006, Holt-Oram Syndrome dx'd 1975, reduced lung capacity dx'd 2009, nasal allergies, food allergies, depression (lifetime problem) IBS, neuropathy in hips

I have 4 children & 7 grandchildren.

As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it. Prov. 25:11