Dating someone with CFS

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   Posted 10/8/2014 6:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey guys Im new to the forums so pleased to meet you all :)

I met a girl on a night out around last year and we hit things off quite well. After a few more months of snap chatting each other and talking briefly via Facebook we bumped into each other on another night out. I got to know here really well, After talking for quite some time on social media etc I discovered she was diagnosed with Cronic fatigue symdrom last year. Just before I was about to go on a work holiday for 2 months we arranged a date (I did not know when I was coming back from the work break but I stayed out there for 2 months in the end).

It was amazing, we spent the whole day together and night and it left me feeling terrible that I was leaving for another country the next day. I told her not to come to the airport as I still didn't want to get too attached and so we left it at that and away I went. Over the 2 months It was amazing!, we talked for hours and hours on Facebook and Skype about anything and everything everyday. I grew to really really like her. Her condition she described as becoming paralyzed almost from time to time and not being able to move. She said that she always got tired but was always talking to me online with it be on skype or facebook.

I surprised her over a Skype call on the week I got back to England, I couldn't wait to see her and begin this relationship :). But this is where things start to go a little sour. The moment I came back its like she doesn't want to spend anytime with me at all, like none. Ive hardly seen her since we have been back, its been nearly a month now and I've seen her about 4 times. She never makes the effort to make anytime,hardly ever speaks to me on social networking or phone/text and with me being an over thinker with literally everything this drives me crazy. I pulled her up on it the other day because it had literally been 2 days since I last heard from her. She didn't think anything was wrong, she said that now I was back in England that what would she talk to me about in person if we spoke about everything online all the time, I saw the point but how can we organise to do anything if she literally won't talk to me. I thought that it could be CFS that is causing these problems and wanted to find out some info on it so I understand it alot better. Ive been reading up on it and have also watched a few documentary's. Is this why she is being so distant with me because I really dont understand and its upsetting me a great deal as I really like her. I want to spend time with her, but it feels like I'm being shut out and left in the dark and I have no idea what is going on. We live about an hours metro ride from each other as well so its sadly not as simple as just walking around the corner to see her :/. I want this to work!, I want to help her but I feel like Im being pushed away.

Any advice would be amazing, Ethier way I am really confused how someone she hated being away so much from and couldn't wait to see is now the one she couldn't seem to care a less making an effort with. Thank you so much guys, I hope to hear from you all soon and thankyou for taking the time to read this! :D!

Much appreciated


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   Posted 2/6/2015 10:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi, I have CFS and it wouldn't stop me from spending time with someone I like. In fact, I just moved across country to be with my boyfriend. I can't speak for her, but it might be something other than CFS that's causing her to be distant. Good luck to you. :)

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   Posted 2/7/2015 11:33 AM (GMT -6)   
sounds like regular relationship issues. To me, she has cooled off and is sending you a message without saying it.

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   Posted 2/23/2015 11:08 AM (GMT -6)   
If you back off and just let her go and she doesnt call or look for you..well..that may be your answer. Dont know if CFS has anything to do with this.

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   Posted 2/26/2015 5:00 AM (GMT -6)   
I have chronic fatigue and when im not feeling well I often can not be bothered messaging or seeing any one, I like to be left alone. maybe take her some chocolates or movies or something and comfort her. show her that you don't mind if you just lay around and do nothing. she might be more keen to hang out then :) good luck
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