Hi there, again! I hear you about the "it's all in your head" or "it's just depression". That is so invalidating of what we are experiencing and it's taken a while for me to become more adept at expressing my disappointment and frustration to those who say those kinds of things. Thankfully, I do have a therapist who has given me support, encouragement, and knowledge to help me through all of this. It's taken me two years of every test and doctor out there to finally even get the diagnoses I have and I can't tell you how often it just seemed hopeless. Funny thing is, of course I also have depression. Who wouldn't going through what we go through, and that simply means I'm fighting another battle related to the first one.
You are not alone, as you could see from my introduction, and I'm going to keep working to find acceptance and balance in my life. The changes are so dramatic and I know it's going to take time. Maybe a lot of time, and I know that I'm going to keep at it and hope you do too. Actually, my therapist recently was talking to me about building more fun into my life. My reply to her was that I first needed to redefine fun. It's become much smaller than it used to be and yet I can find it if I look for it.