this is artpainter44 with a problem i don't know how to solve, although i guess "solve" is totally the wrong word. this is a wonderful forum and i bless everyone associated with it.
i am having difficulties dealing with some of the feelings i'm having regarding some of the difficulties of the youngsters on the forum. i find myself having trouble accepting that some of them are so terribly ill;there's a frustration about it all. i am really trying to be supportive of people & i, in return, have received much support. this is a great bunch of people.
but what can you say to help a young person who will miss out on a lot of the life they should have had? "i'm sorry" doesn't seem to be nearly enough. being there for them as much as you can is all you can do, really. tell them you care about them and what is happening to them.your heart breaks and there's nothing you can do about it but weep and let them know you care. people on this forum are brave because they face adversity every day of their lives and still they live, plan and do the best they can with the hand they were dealt. they forge ahead, some will live , some won't but it won't be for lack of trying .i believe in god ;some days it's hard to see much good in a universe where there is so much pain, & i admit i don't understand it at all most of the time.i couldn't live if i didn't believe there's a reason for everything.i have spent a large part of my own life trying to figure out what it all means...the one thing about getting older that i am so grateful for is that i finally realize i will never know , at least not on earth;i am more able to live than i was at 20. illnesses and all. some of these kids are wiser than i will ever be.bless their hearts. each of us is on his or her own journey;it would be too lonely without each other...it would be too lonely for me now without this forum. thank you all. much love from painter.