Bad karma? (how you felt about sick people before you were sick)

Yesterday, while bored at work, I did some searching on this website.  I found a post that my wife made almost over 3 years ago about CFS.  She was diagnosed with this 3 years ago, however I feel, and she feel's it was a mis-diagnosis.  She's better now, minue sinus issue which she's having surgery for here in December. 

I don't know about bad karma. When I was married I lived in an area where there were a lot of elderly people. My wife would always get angry waiting for them to cross the street in front of us. I would always defend them, because I could see that it was taking all their effort just to walk.

Now I have Chronic Fatigue, and sometimes I am so sick I can hardly walk. And I would not be surprised to hear that my ex-wife is as healthy as can be.

i've never looked at sick people in a negative way because i've always been sick to some extent my whole life with diffent things, including depression, like your wife. shortly after getting mono my CFS started and have been struggling with it for about 4 years now. my boyfriend in some ways is a lot like how u say u used to be with your wife. he and my dad seem to think a lot of it is all in my head but they do acknowledge that it is a real physical condition. my boyfriend also jokes about how when we're married that my medical expenses will kill him. i don't think you should think of it as karma. every journey in life is a lesson. my aunt used to be kind of mean and make me feel bad because i couldn't get up and go to school so easily and i was always sick. she thought i was faking it or exagerating. "everyone's tired in the morning, just deal with it like the rest of us!" it wasn't until a month before she passed away (due to breast cancer) that she came up to me, laid next to me and said "i am so sorry... i didn't understand. i get it now." it made me cry that it took something that extreme until she understood that my fatigue was more than just tiredness. i guess you can never really understand until you go through something similar yourself. don't be hard on yourself. life is an educational experience for us all.

Orion, could you share your wife's recovery story with us?  It would be so uplifting to hear that someone recovered. I know Cher claims she suffered with CFS and was bedridden for 2 years with it.  But she is obviously recovered now.  I am doing so much better but I still have a terrible icky sick feeling in my body.  I can't stand it!!  Any recovery stories would be great!! I think Cher should talk about it more!!

I'll admit that in the past, I've been less than understanding of others with prolonged illnesses - not in a negative way, but more in a "well go get yourself healed" way. I had incorrectly believed there is a diagnosis and cure for nearly everything (with the obvious exception of terminal illnesses), and I had never heard of CFS and other illnesses that defy simple diagnosis before until I started getting sick.

So.. I always though (wrongly) that it was just a matter of getting the right doctor and getting cured. Now, my eyes are wide open. It may still be sometimes a matter of finding the right doctor... but before even that, it's trying to find the energy and hope to continue looking long after the general practitioners have attributed the issues to depression or something else incorrectly.

.. and I'd too enjoy hearing your wife's story.

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Well, I'm affraid to say that even though her Infectious Disease doctor diagnosed her with his, she later found that with SSRI's, her fatigue went away.  For her, it was just states of depression that was causing her fatigue.