I remember your post from awhile back...
I'm afraid to tell you the responses are all going to be the same things as before. Your husband is addicted to the medication, and he is taking it for the high he gets from it, rather than the pain relief. If he was (at least in my opinion) in real constant pain and in need of the oxycodone - he would "need" each day - and not be able to just do without for the weeks he's only taking the methadone.
Chronic pain people are often looked down upon - and for the exact reason you are talking about
. Your husband might have legitimate pain - but he's seriously abusing the priveledge of relief. Many CPer's end up dependent on their pain medication - at this point I consider myself dependent on them. After dealing with so much pain - and knowing that even the medication I'm on doesn't get me down below a 5 pain level - I have a fear of not having that medication there for me. I dream of having a day without pain - or even with a 3-4 pain level instead of the constant 6-7.
The big problem - at least as far as his real pain relief is concerned is that with him abusing the medications, and taking large dosages and such - it's going to take that much more to get his pain down when his pain gets bad. It's like stretching, normally you slowly stretch more and more as needed, it doesn't hurt, and nothing breaks, it is going to take a great deal of a stretch - very quickly and very far - to get something to get pulled or whatnot. If you don't stretch over time, and suddenly it gets stretched out of no where, your a great deal more likely to pull something. Your husband is getting his body used to the drug abuse - so when he needs the drugs to help the pain - they aren't going to be as effective.
My first thoughts - in all honesty - are to tell you to go to an appointment with your husband to see his doctor, I honestly don't see him allowing you in though, and if he does, I doubt he's going to allow you to discuss his problem. At the same time - if you make an appointment with that doctor - he cannot discuss your husband's problems with you, unless your husband has listed you in his file.
I totoally agree with PAlady - you need to get counseling, and get it ASAP. You have some very very serious decisions to make in the near future, and they are going to be difficult for you to deal with. Please, remember that his addiction is not your fault. You also need to know that he can't "quit for you", he has to quit for himself. Your husband has to realize that he has a problem, and then step up and decide that he wants to change. While he is going about
his life, you need to start find a way to change yours. Talk to a counselor, pastor, priest, or call one of the many drug hotlines out there. They are as easy as a internet search, or a lookup in the phone book.
If things haven't changed over the past few weeks, they aren't going to without your husband coming to terms with the issues at hand. I commend you for caring enough to seek help, and as for your initial post awhile ago, wanting to see his side, and find out if all chronic pain people handle it that way.
If your husband won't change his life, hun, you have to change yours. You need to stop allowing him to hurt you how he is. Your husband is not going to be fun to be around if he ends up going into withdrawals and could very easily end up killing himself during it, and/or injuring you or your son.
I wish you the best, and applaud you for trying. My final, honest opinion though, is that you need to find a way out, safely, because I don't see things ending easily here. I feel that if you call him on his drug abuse, he's liable to harm you or your child, or himself. I don't see him admitting he's abusing things, and that he will take it out on you. Seek help, and look for strength, I've got a feeling you are going to need all of it you can find.
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