This topic is just as important than as all the others. I am married 14 years now and always had a very healthy intimate relationship. The past 3 and a half years with debilitating chronic pain, has like everyone else ruined my life. In every way. My med list is long and on more than one bottle, it says may lower testosterone or errections. The sex is a big part of feeling together, a special feeling that no one shares but you and your spouce. But what I have noticed also is the being the husband of pre-injury is imposible. I know she is looking for more than the sex part, it's also the time before and after without having to rush or only take care of her because it's just not worth it for me to continue because I'm at a number 9 pain and begging for my pain meds and she will just get sore.(frustration is the last thing anyone wants)
I feel it is definatly worth trying to help out your spouce and it does help them. There's nothing wrong with it, and if it makes thier day a little brighter, Who knows maybe instead of the sandwich for dinner, you might get a steak!!! It's not always easy but, I still want her to have as normal of a life as possible.
I Hope Everyone Has A Pain Free Day!!
P.S. Besides once someone falls out of love, there's not much chance they can love again the way they did before. I dont want her having to look around. She would'nt, but you hear about stories like that all the time.I guess just give no excuse........
anyway, thats just me....
thanks for listening,