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   Posted 5/23/2008 6:14 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello Everyone.
I dont know about other people, but as a person suffering with chronic pain I'm not looking forward to summer vacation when the children get out of school. Now dont get me wrong, I love my children more than anything in the world, But it makes me feel bad that alot of the time I cant get up and do things with my kids. They'll wanna go to the park and go swimming, but I'll be in so mach pain that I cant hardly walk from the car to the pool and sit in that heat in an uncomfortable chair thats making me feel worse. I'm just wondering what do you guys with young children do during the summer vacation to keep their kids occupied without causing more pain to ourselves. My children are 6 and 8 years old so their too young to go by themselves. I'm just really stressing out on what im gonna do to keep them happy and out of the house so their not at home killing each other or glued to to the TV playing the Wii for hours. Thank you for listening.

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   Posted 5/23/2008 6:41 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Kitty:

I can see that you really care about your children and want them to enjoy their summer. Maybe there is a way you can get those experiences for them w/o adding to your pain. First of all, remember that even though they don't always express it (or even show it!), the most important thing to your kids is that they get to spend quality time with you. How that time is spent is not so important as just making sure the time is there. I think it's pretty easy for parents to feel guilty and think they aren't doing enough for their kids, but you have to remember that you take the best care of them if you take care of YOU too.

So, here's what I'm thinking....

I'm a teacher, and in our school district we have myriad summer programs available to families. Some are academic, but others are more physical activity oriented and the kids go to water parks or fun centers and get to work out all that energy that built up during the school year! tongue If you can find one of those programs for your kiddos, then maybe you could take the off days (some are not 5 days/wk) or take the late afternoons or early evenings to spend your quality time with them. That could mean snuggling up on the couch with popcorn and a movie or sitting around the table playing a board game...activities that wouldn't be so painful for you.

Wishing you a wonderful summer full of kids' laughter and less pain each day than the day before!


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   Posted 5/24/2008 12:06 AM (GMT -6)   
Great ideas ry! Also your public library always has summer things for kids. Get them reading. Maybe get a DVD along the way but if kids can pick their own books you'd be amazed how they will like to read. Ask around about other kids programs in your community. Many are free or for a small fee they can participate. Time to get creative and I know you can.

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   Posted 5/24/2008 10:12 PM (GMT -6)   
I have an idea, something that I am going to do with my four year old granddaughter that I watch everyday while her mother works. I am going to start a journal. Write down things that we do together, include pictures she draws and photos of us during the day. Then when she is grown, I will give her the journals. Yours could be a summer journal just for the summer and include your activites too. As for me, my fibro limits me a lot, so I do a lot of board games and watching dvds. We watch cartoons that stimulate learning too. They are out there. The library is a good idea too. For me, I can't get out much with Kelly, but sometimes we make a special trip to McDonald's.

How about going to a community pool somewere near by? That helps my fibro and can often help chronic pain. Kids love the water!!

Hope it helps. Good luck. I'm sure you'll do fine.

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   Posted 5/25/2008 2:18 AM (GMT -6)   
All excellent ideas and input. I agree that time with Mom is what matters most. Our kids are grown, 34 and 27 but we have their lil ones here at least once a week each, they are 1 and 2. My TENS Unit is a lifesaver and now with the Fentynal Patch, I am actually looking forward to summer, where I had been dreading it.
As for sitting, do u have a comfy chair that u can keep with u when out? Those canvas-like camp chairs are very comfy. And ice packs in a cooler to combat the heat. Kids don't notice the heat but we older folks, eps with CP sure do. How bout one of those little batter-powered fans?

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we should long ago have been saved.

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   Posted 5/25/2008 4:15 AM (GMT -6)   
i know how you feel too sort of. i love summer and im sad because im stuck in so much pain. i can't even go for a walk because just to the end of the drive makes me hurt so much. my doctor wants me to think of a spinal stimulation next. even if i do and it works it'll be winter before i'm better from it. i guess i can dream of next summer.

i don't have children. i always want to have many many children but pain stole that. my docs say children arent for my body to handle and adopting isnt ok either.

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   Posted 5/25/2008 11:17 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to the forum. It sounds like this is the right place for you! Please read a lot of the threads and you'll learn about our struggles with pain management, but also some successes, too. It sounds like maybe you need some better pain mangement now, even if you get a stimulator in the future.

I don't have children, either, but a goddaughter I love dearly. I hate that I can't help her with her two young ones. There's a lot of grieving that's part of all of this, too.



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   Posted 5/25/2008 3:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome JoBobB, I hope that u  find some good advice and helpful tips here. It's a very caring place.

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we should long ago have been saved.

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   Posted 5/25/2008 4:12 PM (GMT -6)   
What about hiring a neighborhood teen or a nanny for a couple days per week. You will get quality time on the other days and they will get to go out and about the days the sitter is working.

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   Posted 5/25/2008 8:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello   HELLO Kitty 22.
welcome & thanks for the good questions...
be assured that your LVOE for your children is seen, felt & known..  and that  
there are strategies   out there to  come up with creative  thigns   ...
for "us  who are in need"  of some  timely creativeity...
  • No # 1  stop feeling guilty about   being a MOM with CP.. you are  who you are...  and      you dont ahve to keep up with "THE Jones's " and   do " what everyone else IS doing" / or so it seems...
 They'll wanna go to the park and go swimming, but I'll be in so mach pain that I cant hardly walk from the car to the pool and sit in that heat in an uncomfortable chair thats making me feel worse.
  • Make a List of thigns you KNOW you CAN DO & maybe even    would LIKE to do "IF"
My Children are now young adultas.. but  I can remember  when 10 years ago they were 8, 10,  etc...
do you ahve family ? or a YMCA or a church group. near by
sometimes tehre are volunteers who'd love to help and take kids to swim ( ppl that are  trusted of course)
Find a PROJECT on a SUBJECT that  each indiviual child  likes.. and 
see what you can do... to RUN with their Passion or theme...
I know when my kids were young having  my MOM one hour away helped  some times....
she wanst there for every day
but    a break now and again helped me.. to  survivie...
now I need some advice  for the kids I have still at home who are NOT amking my home an easy palce to live in..  *LOL*
am thinking of   flying the coupe and getting a small apartment...   i cnat  keep up and I cant take care of my children  they must care for themselves & if in my house..
they will ahve to CARE FOR ME>...
any ways....
hope you got an idea or two...
ps/ like the Hello kitty
my daughter jsut decoatred her baby's nursery with it... as the theme...  **sweet

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   Posted 5/26/2008 9:38 PM (GMT -6)   
You might use a portion of your Stimulus check to purchase one of those $99 quick set pools from WalMart. They could have swimming in their own yard then.

I wasn't in chronic pain when my kids were young, so I can't offer much advice from a "been there done that" point of view.  Although, I do remember the local pool being the place for kids to meet to catch the bus to the day's activitis, but I don't know if that was sponsored by the pool or the school.  They even had a van that came around with free lunches every day (the kids didn't need to belong to activity or anything or have parents who made a certain amount....they just had to show boys would actually leave the house where there was plenty of food just to go get lunch from there.  They were about 10 and 12 at the time. 

Both the library and school activities sound perfect to me.

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Post Edited (Mochiah) : 5/26/2008 8:43:23 PM (GMT-6)

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