Posted 5/28/2008 7:12 PM (GMT -7)
NeedABreak - Welcome to HW chronic pain forum....nicetameetcha! I do hope you will continue to post and get to know us, and us you. We are quite the verbose bunch here and will level with you straight away.
Now, if I am reading correctly, your husband decided to move out and you are having to pay for the home you and your child live in AND pay for his apartment? UH-UH....if he wants to live on his own then he should pay to be on his own. You do NOT need that stress dumped on your shoulders. Do you have to pay for his food and utilities too??? I'm sorry, that is just askin WAYYYYY too much of you when you are already strapped and exhausted.
OK, I'll step down off my "I AM WOMAN" soap box.....
When our kids were younger and hubby was away fighting forest fires I had a high-school age neighbor look after the young ones while I did other things. At first, I would always be home, but she was watching the children and I was able to get phone calls, bill paying, or even a long soak in the tub, whatever, done without interruption. Then, after seeing how she was with the boys I gradually did things away from home, like get a haircut, run errands, shopping for groceries, or seeing a movie. Just having someone trustworthy with your child for a few hours a week, even if you are right there too, is a needed break. I started out paying her very little, she wanted to get experience in baby sitting, but as soon as I started leaving the house I paid much better. I also wonder if you could leave the baby with your regular sitter/day care for an extra few hours a day or two a week.
I wish your husband could do that for you, but it sounds like he wants to be selfish and throw the whole family idea away. Why can't he realize how good he has it with you.
cervical fusion 2006
L4-5 surgery with cages, plates, and screws in 2005
MEDS: Fentanyl patch, Norco, Celexa, trazodone, and Flexeril
To handle yourself, use your head...to handle others, use your heart
I'm going to smile like nothing is wrong, act like everything is perfect, and pretend its not hurting me.