It must be so hard to watch your husband go through servere pain and the withdrawals from his meds. I am coming off oxycontin,at the moment, as my Pain doctor wants to try another med. I am working very closley with my doctor and very very very SLOWLY coming down off the oxycontin. My pain has increased, but I have had absolutly no side effects.
It is so nice of you to put so much effort into your husbands well being, I am very lucky too as I have my mother right by my side all the time. If she can see I am suffering in any way she is straight on the phone to my doctor, and within a day we will have come to a solution. When you are in chronic pain you need all the help you can get, and your husband my get angry with you at first. Though over time he will see that you not butting in, but helping him the best way you know how. If you and your husband can get to your doctor and tell your doctor that your husbands pain management is just NOT WORKING I am so sure that your husdand,doctor and yourself will find a solution.
Good luck and my thoughts are with you and your husband