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   Posted 7/25/2008 10:40 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm not exactly the compasionate one or the one with the big words, but my girlfriend has become completely paranoia ove the past two weeks.  Some three weeks ago, my network suffered from a major power failure (which made it impossible to contact Ryand, as we had agreed); so I took the time to spend more time with my girl.  She's 21 years older (I'm35), but that has never been a problem.
Some two weeks ago, she started ranting about "the Jews and their mischief during WW II".  I was flabergasted as I had read her file and that of her immediate family (job requirement) and she showed no sign of racism ever before (her family was in the Resistance during the War).  During the past two weeks it got increasingly worse, up to the point where she started hitting people at random and accused me of starting World War II (which isn't funny in my job).
I had her apprehended as I really did not have a clue what to do with her anymore.  She's currently under sedation at the local hospital but I've taken an incredible fright.  Being told I would die from cancer was something I could life with, but this situation...
I don't know what's happenened.  I was there with her when she first got these "attacks".  She's not on drugs, nor had she consumed a large amount of alcohol.  She scares the living hell out of me.  I'm used to a lot of stuff, but this is a SciFi nightmare, it remmebers me of those Exorcist movies (not to be taken too litteral).
Anybody got an idea how to proceed next?  Waiting for the results might take a long time (it's vacation down here), and I'd rather not leave her alone for too long; she's the love of my life.  I just don't know what to do anymore and neither do my doctors.
Any advice would be more than welcome.
Morgoth Bauglir
To stand and be still at the Birkenhead Drill is a mighty bullet to shew.

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   Posted 7/25/2008 11:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Has she been evaluated for the dementia and/or alzheimers(sp) (I think they are more or less the same thing). Also maybe she's been having strokes or seizers(sp) adding to her 'attacks' making them worse. I hope you get answers for your gf soon and she starts getting better.

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   Posted 7/25/2008 11:12 AM (GMT -6)   

I'd wondered what had become of you! Glad to hear you are okay. I'm sorry to hear of your girlfriend's situation. If you haven't already done this, you really need to contact your girlfriend's immediate family and let them know what's going on. Aside for the extra support they could offer both her and you, it might be crucial for the hospital to hear some medical history from them right now.

I hope she will be okay.

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   Posted 7/25/2008 3:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi, Morgoth,
I think Mami and Ry have give you some good pointers. So I take it she's 56, which is not that old. There could be some early onset alzheimer's (it's not exactly the same as dementia, but similar symptoms). You mentioned she's had these "attacks" before, though, so I don't know if it's a psychiatric issue - something that involves a periodic psychotic outburst - or something organic. You need to try to find doctors who have some experience evaluating these issues, which can be a challenge. Something is obviously wrong. If there's a history of periodic paranoid episodes during her life, then I'd lean toward the psychiatric end. If it's fairly recent, organic definitely needs to be ruled out first.

Hope this helps some.


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   Posted 7/25/2008 5:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Morgoth: Our ist post together as i am new to this forum..... Read Your post over several times. Before my accident i was in Law Enforcement and have been around people who totally lost it for no valid reason such as drugs, alcohol, severe depression. Advice I have none other than knowing that many of the people I arrested later were found to have chemical inbalances and brain lesion/ tumors which caused their behavior to change so badly that they commited violent crimes. Hopefully She recovers soon. Best of luck, Tom
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   Posted 7/25/2008 5:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for the advice and support. Her only child, her son is on vacation with his only child, her grandson. They are out camping in the Ardennes. I'll order them tracked down immediately. She's in the hospital and the necessary scans have been ordered for Monday morning. Still waiting for the result of he bloodwork.

I've seen people who changed psychiologically after a stroke or heart attack or due to medication, but never like this. Thank you all for the support.

Ryand, I'm sorry I haven't been able to get back to you, my network blew up as I was reading your mail. he blast also took out the toaster which, in my opinion, was worse. I can surf now but e-mail works only on and off. I'll get back to you.

Thank you all.
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   Posted 7/25/2008 6:21 PM (GMT -6)   
My goodness what a weird change in behavior unset! I would hope that the Doctors would run CT scans and MRI of the brain. If not I would request a second opinion before bringing in a Psych Doctor, just my opinion.
If you don't mind I have a few questions.
She is not on any medications at all?
Dose she recognise you when you go visit?
Dose she remember her episode's?
Has she been exposed to any new stress or head aches?
I she menopausal?
Best of outcome I hope for you.

Post Edited (~Cloe~) : 7/26/2008 11:41:15 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 7/26/2008 12:14 AM (GMT -6)   
She's a cook, she used to cook for a monastery/hospital. Now she works in a brasserie, 3 out of 7 from 9 till 23. Three weeks ago she was fine, it started two weeks ago. She was checked out by the company (gov agency) earlier this year and received a security clearance. Since I work from my home, friends and family need to be cleared before they can visit me and I'm not allowed to have any relationship with a woman who hasn't been cleared by the company. They reported only minor problems. No signs of abuse (alcohol, drugs, etc.), psychologically stable, good character, high moral standards, intelligent (fluent in four languages). There was a minor financial problem but the company took care of that (she and her former husband had a brasserie themselves and off he went with the money and there she was with the debts). She receives, on top of her work, additional benefits from the company for services rendered towards the company (keeping my backups stored at a physically seperated place from my network).

Her health situation is as follows. She will require a new hip (left) in a couple of years, she has weak lungs, yet she continues smoking; but she knows all this for months/years now. She had some minor cold sores around her lips (I have those as well now ... surprise, surprise). But that's it. The only medication she's on is teramicine (an eye ointment) which is widely used here for cold sores. She never had a heart attack, stroke, surgery, or anything else. According to her file there is no indication of psychological irregularities. She came never in contact with dangerous chemicles.

The mental side: No imediate problems. Financial Ones have ben dealt with, she has a very good relation with her son and grandson. She took a week vacation with her grandson some month ago I had to work at the time), but afterwards her grandson didn't tell me anything alarming. She lost her cat last year that's about all that happened to her. Of course, Some nine years ago her son tried to hang himself (but the rope boke). He fully recovered. She, as well as her son are divorced for years now.

Unless she has these well "attacks" by lack of a better word, she's calm, just her normal self, likeable, still beautiful, intelligent, etc. She recognizes me when I visited her yesterday. She was not exactly keen on the fact I had her apprehended (but I can life with that). Someone had to do something about this situation. It would have been to let her running loose in society.

During these "attacks" she appears very irritable, exited and aggressive, then, just as it started, it vanishes. I think she remembers partially.

I'm going to visit her as much as possible and make sure all the tests are don on Monday (ECG has already been done as well as EEG but this one is going to be repeated on Monday. CT and MRI are scheduled for Monday as well, and I've ordered a full body scan).
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   Posted 7/26/2008 12:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Wow Morgoth, what a story. I do hope they find the cause of your lady's problems and can help. It would be great if she had one these episodes while she is hospitalized, it would sure be beneficial for a dr to see it as it happens. You said she has a son, what about her parents or any siblings, aunts, uncles, or cousins to get any possible family history from? Immediate family does need to be notified if she has more out there besides her son. I have no words of wisdom to offer, however, you are to be commended for acting quickly and getting her some help. Have you asked her if this has happened in the past and if she said no, are you satisfied with her answer? I will keep you both in my prayers and please let us know how she is doing and you of course too. Susie

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   Posted 7/26/2008 12:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Morgoth, sounds like you have everything under control. As mentioned above early onset of alzheimer's would be something I would keep in mind if it was my loved one, of course after waiting for the test results.
Hang on to her and your self tight,
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