Posted 7/27/2008 11:43 AM (GMT -6)
I also agree with Dagger and Tom. How bad is the agorophobia? It's definitely not going to help your husband if you're having panic attacks in the taxi or in his hospital room. A cystoscopy, while uncomfortable (I've had them), is not like he's having spine surgery, or dealing with something terminal, so maybe your daughter could be with him?
Another thought - if you're going to try to go, I'd suggest calling the hospital's social work department and ask to talk with the social worker who might deal with this (there are different social workers for different purposes). They might be of the best help in negotiating things for you. But again, if you agorophobia is not controlled with meds, you may be more of a worry to your husband than a help.
Dagger - I think you expressed it beautifully! And I absolutely agree with you abou† giving and receiving. To me it's a circle of energy and if we only give then it's selfish, right? So allow yourself to receive some help, Pamela. It may make everything easier for both you and your husband in the end. And your daughter maybe has some lessons to learn here, too.