Posted 7/28/2008 11:03 AM (GMT -6)
I also want to welcome you to our forum. I typed a longer response but had some technical difficulties posting it, so I'll just say I second everything Chutz has said.
I do hope your cousin does find a good therapist. She needs your support, but you can't be everything to her. Maybe offer to go with her. This doesn't mean her pain is psychological or anything, but she's got a lot of challenges she's facing and needs as much help as possible.
And definitely her husband's drinking is not caused by her illness - it's his choice. He stayed sober for 6 months, so he knows some of the things he has to do to get back into his sober living, but that's not your cousin's responsibility. It's his. She needs to take care of herself. And you're to be commended for helping her.