Hi Sue and welcome back. I am very glad to hear that you got rid of the husband. I had alcolism in my family and I understand it very well. You are so right when you say he contributed heavyly to your depression.
Don't you just love some of the stupid things that come out of their drunken mouths. I have always heard the saying "God looks out for fools & drunks" and I truly believe that statement. My 2nd ex was not an alcoholic, but he was mentally abusive, I kicked him to the curb after 5 yrs, that was more than enough, he turned out to be a mean nasty man to say the least. When he went out of town on a job, that I found for him, in 5 days I filed for a divorce, I moved myself and my kids out of our house into an apt. and bought myself a new car and started a new life one more time. I have zero tolerance for anyone abusive in any manner. After leaving him, someone who really knew little about my life with him, said you look better now than you ever have. She also told me she thought he was what was making me so sick at that time and she hit the nail right on the head. My health problems I was having then did a turn around once I got rid of him. lol
Oh gal, you go on the vacation and have yourself a wonderful time, you deserve it. As for the kids, as they get older, trust me, they will look back on things and then will be coming to you and saying, "oh Mom how did you manage to last that long with Dad". Kids even at their age still will put blinders on when it comes to parents, but that too will change.
Welcome to your new life and enjoy every minute of it. Hugs, Susie