I understand your frustration, i too suffer from that. i have 4 young kids and i too snap then feel guilty, hate not being able to play with them properly, i have 4 boys so as you can imagine high maintenance, and hard work, i a get angry at feeling so darn crappy. I get angry at the fact that the kids know why i have to go lie down, or rest or cant play. Im only going on 29. My son Joshua who will be 9 in sept, said to me today that he remembers me getting my intestine out! i too feel helpless a lot that i cant do much around the house, and my hubby helps a lot.
As for your hubby's mum with AD, AD is awful my gran had it, and i know how my dad was. Gran didn't even recognise my dad but she somehow knew my mum, her daughter-in-law. It is such an awful degrading disease, it takes it out of the carers, and no doubt your hubby is emotionally drained. Your hubby sounds as caring as mine. He too is always concerned about me and worrying.
I hope you get the stimulator thingy!!! sorry dont understand much about it but you seem convinced it will help and i realy hope it will.
I know you are hurting emotionally and physically sometimes i dont know what is worse. But you have wonderful hubby and by the sounds of i fab pets. Just get a cuddle from your lab and pretend it is you HW family. amanda xxxx