First, I'm sorry I didn't welcome you to the forum before! Consider this a belated hello.
I would also agree with everything Ry has said, especially about the "hoops". Since you seem to have already decided to d/c the oxy (although I'm still a bit confused, because it seems your doc wanted you to d/c because of the publicity about oxy?) then that's one thing you SEEM (I'm still unclear, as noted) to have decided this independent of your PCP, you don't want to add not returning phone calls. As a matter of fact, I would return the calls so they at least can document that the suboxone isn't helping your symptoms - and I'd describe that so it gets into the record.
My brain is a bit foggy these days so forgive me if I forget or miss details, but did this PCP refer you to a PM specialist yet? If not, I'd request a referral. Ry is right, though, suboxone can help with pain. My cousin is a pharmacist and she has recently told me she's been to seminars about how it's underused in pain management. BUT she has also said the dosing is very important. It needs to be titrated very slowly until a therapeutic dose is reached. I wonder how much experience your PCP has with subox. I really think that should be done by a PM specialist, but maybe an increase in the dose could help. So my suggestion would be to call your PCP and make sure it's noted the current dose isn't helping, and see if he's willing to help you UNTIL you get to a PM specialist.
I certainly do feel for you regarding your injury and the nerve endings there are plentiful indeed. I am so sorry this happened to you. Have the surgeries helped? Most definitely you should be with a PM doc, and a team of people. Have you seen a good female therapist who specializes in pain management? Just having someone to vent to (we're here - but someone in person, too) could help. I notice the anxiety meds. and that's understandable. I wish I could help more.
I can't tell you about how long it would take re: detoxing. I'm not a doc or a pharmacist. You aren't alone, though, in what you've experienced from the attitudes of others, and the ignorance about suboxone re: use for pain makes things even worse. Yet if it turns out it might help, it's worth trying to find pharmacists and others who understand - and explaining/educating your family. We can help with those things as many of us have dealt with it in one form or another. You can read that in a lot of posts. On the other hand, it is also possible the suboxone may not work for you, and you may need to return to the oxy. Again, all things considered, most of us accept the best pain meds. and other strategies we can find - but this doesn't mean we like them.
I don't know if this helps. I feel like I'm rambling a bit and I apologize if anything's confusing.