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   Posted Today 11:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Here's something for you to think about...Who do you trust the most and why. On the surface it's usually a quick and easy answer, but dig down deep on the 'why' part.

For me the 'who' is hubby. Unfortunately over the years I developed a deep mistrust of people. My first marriage was reason #1. I had no idea he was a compulsive liar. I believed whatever he said. Wow, was I naive! After I confronted him many times, his most famous line to me once was ... "Gee, why are you mad? I haven't lied to you in a whole week!" You would think that would have been enough for me but....ok, time to let that one go.

But when I met Bill, on a personal level, I knew I could totally trust him. (We had known each other before as family friends) He took me on during adversity and sad times, took in my 2 teen boys and a pregnant teen daughter. He supported us when the kids' father didn't. He did not have to do that and it was pure love that drove him. What is not to trust?

My ex left, thank the Lord, for some cheap chick in a red sports car. I was lied to, cheated on and left. Bill understood... his situation was totally different but he had felt being 'dumped' before. We both knew what it felt like and made a pact to never do it to each other. Divorce is not an and friendship is. He is a gentleman thru and thru, trust me totally and we respect each other. He has never lied to me or given me any reason not to believe him. We share openly about our feelings and thoughts. In short...we are best friends and best friends trust each other.
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   Posted 9/25/2008 9:30 AM (GMT -6)   
I trust no one but myself. I have serious trust issues and always have in the back of my mind that someone I know and love is going to betray me even if they don't or show any reason for that mistrust. I chalk it up to my dysfunctional childhood. I truly love my husband. He is my soulmate and my best friend. I trust him, explicitly? No but that is my burden to bear and it has nothing to do with him nor has he ever given me reason to mistrust him.
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   Posted 9/25/2008 11:25 AM (GMT -6)   
I don't have trouble trusting at all.  Guess my childhood did not have those skeletons.  I have been married almost 40 years and have been with my husband for 43.  He doesn't lie to me so I trust him implicitly  I realize I am one of the lucky ones. 
He has stood by me through some really rough times with my depression, inability to move from my back problems and surgery and other things.  He has always been my rock.  He has taken good care of me and my family and I trust his judgement as well.  I hate to say it but he is almost always right about everything.  That's a confident place for me to be.  I feel I am blessed.
Thanks for letting me share.
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