Pam, this subject makes my blood boil even now a few yrs later. When I first started having the severe pain again I was sent to my pain dr. I have a terrible time tolerating any type of medication, not just pain meds. I once became toxic on blood pressure medication and spent 2 weeks in the hospital. To make a long story short I was put on opiods and of course was having all kinds of problems with each & every one. My husband decided I was an addict and took it upon himself to call my daughter and son to let hem know he was having all kinds of problems with me because I was an addict from pain pills. Now keep in mind that not one time had he ever gone to the dr with me, not one time asked what the dr said was wrong with me, he did not want to know. Oh almost forgot, he also told them I was blowing all my money. Yeah right, I am on SS and have so much to blow.
My son is a very anti medication person simply because he does not like to take pills. Also, coming from my husband this had to be true. Although, my son had no idea what was going on with me. My son came to my house one Sat morning and he was so hateful to me, I finally looked at him and said I do not know what is going on with you, but you will not come to my house and speak to me hatefully like you are now, in fact you need to leave. When you think you can be civil with me, then you may come back. He stomped out of the back gate-he had never been told to leave before. Not long, here he comes back in the gate, I was sitting on the patio and he blurted out what my husband called and told him. I told him I said hold on, I am going to kill 2 birds with one stone. I told him I was going to bring his Dad in on this.
To make a long story short I set both of them straight real quick and I mean I cut to the bone. I told each of them if they had a question about
me to ask me. I told my son right in front of his Dad, that his Dad is ignorant to any of my health problems because his Dad was not interested in my problems, I mean I did not leave a rock unturned. By time I got done with them, my son looked at his Dad and told him how disgusted and disappointed in him he was for lying about
his Mom. My husband pretty much raised my son. Very good dad to my kids, lousy husband. His problem was he had health issues for quite a while and everyone always paid alot of attention to him. well, all of a sudden I am sick and he was no longer in the spotlight and he was down right jealous, which is totally absurb, but he really was. Oh, I told him this in front of my son. After this no more crap from any of them. My daughter was not a problem because she knew the trouble I was having with meds.
All I can say Pam is do not let them get to you, its hard I know. Consider the source and the ignorance involved here. You know about
your illness and so does your husband and no one else counts. In fact honey, its none of their business. I would not let them engage me in any conversation about
your medical issues. Tell them that subject is off limits and walk away. You could talk and explain all day long and they still would not get it. They are not wortg your breath. I agree with who ever said hum the Barney song.lol
Hope you are feeling better. Hugs, Susie