Listen I filled out the papers once and was refused, so immediately after I had my knee and hip replaced within a month of each other, I sat down and with an article I found on how to fill out the papers, I just wrote a VERY long letter and BEGGED them. but the article (I can not find it now) suggested to focus on ARTHRITIS. So I stated how I was in so much pain and was crying every day and then I went into how I needed help cooking, cleaning,going to bathroom, shower, getting dressed, and anything else I could say to feel sorry for myself. (all was true). how all the meds keep you fuzzy and no one will let you work like that...BEG...I mean BEG for their help..ask "WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO"?say "I NEED YOUR HELP"!! A Doctor using the word "arthritis" in his doc notes helps too. or saying specifically what your disability is... tell the dr you are trying to get SSD
I am going to look for the copy of my application to see if I can further assist you in what I said. But do NOT sugar coat anything!!! make it look as bad as it really is or worse if you have to. I remember my letter to them was quite lengthy and even had tear drops on them. I also had my sister and my mom write letters explaining how they had to help me with EVERYTHING, I mean EVERYTHING!! You can not hold anything back and explain how the arthritis is so crippling. They approved me right away.
Good luck and let me know how it goes or if I can answer any questions, I will try to remember. I was approved in 2005, so my memory is fuzzy after all these surgeries and medicine. you can fill out the papers on line as well!
CONTRATS ON THE MARRIAGE!!