I am so sorry that your husband is not being supportive, but honey this is very common with us women who are married and have chronic pain. Men in general are not nurturing, they expect us to be 100% whether we are capable of being it or not. If a woman posts on here how supportive the other half is, then she needs to to remind herself every day how lucky she is to have such a man. A man will never admit that a woman is the glue that keeps it all together in their daily lives, but let her get down and all hell breaks loose. The house isn't getting cleaned, the laundry isn't done, not much groceries left in the house, don't forget you need to sit down and get the bills paid, and oh what are we having for dinner tonite!!!!!
I remember very vividly when I first became ill 6 yrs ago due to other health issues and then it had a domino effect on my health, lots of bad things happened in the medical department. Back then I did alot of stupid things and ended up hurting myself in the long run. I tried "sucking things up" as he said I should do. I did nearly 18 months and then had a melt down. Boy, I was stupid, stupid, for even listening to him. Now keep in mind we have been married 21 yrs. Whatever you do, try and stay as focused as you can on helping Kara.
I wish I could say some magic words thats you could pass onto him that would help him understand where you are. Other than getting him to attend some drs appts and hearing it from the dr or having him come to healing well and reading some of our posts I just don't know. This is a chronic problem with chronic pain, getting our families and spouses to understand. Many hugs coming your way honey. Susie