Kitty, i agree with the others! Talk to the pastor....
Rumors can be so very hurtful! I know from first hand experience. My own mother in law, told my husbands coworker(the two men are very close) that i was just married to my husband because he was a good father and provider (also in a round about
way saying that i was with him for his money).
This nearly TORE me apart. I thought i was close with my MIL and was shocked to find she had done this....My husband and i were having some problems at the time and it was then natural for him to think about
this once the seed was planted....
I confronted my MIL privately and made it clear this was NOT the case, and that if she ever said anything about
me/my marriage again, it would not go as nicely for her. I also made my husband talk to her about
it. I really wanted him to talk to the coworker also, but i don't think he ever did,so im sure that guy still thinks im a gold digger....(granted, my husband had nothing when we married, and we MADE our money together!). Anyways, we ended up in counceling because of it because i was so angry and could not let it go.
I finally HAD to let it go or i would have ruined my marriage.....And if you don't get the answers and response/redemption you are looking for , you will need to just "let it go also".....It's one of the hardest things i have ever had to do, but i HAD to do it.
Good luck, i hope that it will work out to your satisfaction.
Jan. 2009, complete hysterectomy, diagnosed stage 4 endometriosis & adenomyosis (age 36)
2003, dx moderate UC
2000, dx selective IGA deficiency w/ anti IGA antibodies
2000, dx Antipholipid Antibody Syndrome
1999-2009, chronic hemmoragic ovarian cysts, w/ partial ovary removal
1977, complete reconstruction of foot after lawnmower accident (chronic pain)
6mp 75mg, prednisone 40mg (just starting meds again)
percocet 5mg 3x day
potassium 3x day