Hi Been Butchered...Im so sorry about
the situation you are in. I have not read everyone's respones, so i hope im not going to double to much of what has already been said.
First, GO to a marriage therapist right away!!!!!! Call one TODAY!
Now, i have suffered with chronic medical issues since my marriage in 1999. This past Jan, 2009, i just had a FULL hysterectomy, not for birth control but for a TON of female problems. We have NOT been intimate since surgery. I have thankfully not had any pressure from him, however, i do try to make the effort to "help" him out often. I will also say that i delivered two preemies via csection and was unable to have intimate relations for about
9 months both pregnancies due to us chosing to have two high risk pregnancies. Those spans did cause some problems, and we did do counceling both times just to be sure we were both on the same page.
To me, it sounds like your wife is feeling like maybe u should be better than you are, and i am dealing with this right now from my hysterectomy. People who are not dealing with pain, simply do not understand it.
Anyways, i also run after two kids all day and im exhausted and in pain and get totally fustrated that my husband just does not get it......but, i am back in therapy (privatly this time) so that i can atleast get my moods undercontrol so that my husband doesn't have to deal w/ a crazy wife on top of everything else....LOL
I hope that everything works out for you and i really wish you the best!
Jan. 2009, complete hysterectomy, diagnosed stage 4 endometriosis & adenomyosis (age 36)
2003, dx moderate UC
2000, dx selective IGA deficiency w/ anti IGA antibodies
2000, dx Antipholipid Antibody Syndrome
1999-2009, chronic hemmoragic ovarian cysts, w/ partial ovary removal
1977, complete reconstruction of foot after lawnmower accident (chronic pain)
6mp 75mg, prednisone 40mg (just starting meds again)
percocet 5mg 3x day
potassium 3x day