Hi Anise and welcome HW. I am a little late in posting, I did read your original post.
By the way, I don't know if you answered someone that asked, are you having your surgery done by a neurosurgeon or an orthopod? With the leg pains and what not, I sure hope your answer is a neuro. they just deal with the nerves so much more than the orthos. Just my opinion.
Well, to say the least you have an awful lot on your plate. I will be honest, with your description of your symptoms I don't know how you have made it this far, trying to juggle everything. I am glad to see you seem to have a good attitude towards the surgery and that right there has alot to with how you will do after surgery in many ways. By being aggressive towards taking care of your health issues lets hope and pray for a full recovery. You do know that is a real possibility. Letting things go too long with nerve involvement is never good because of it leading to permament nerve damage that no surgery can fix. At least by trying to fix it early you have a higher chance of a success rate. I think you know by now all of us HW are behind you 500% and will be here for you no matter what.
I would suggest that you get your pain meds refilled if possible before your surgery and have them available so that you don't have to have the husband being involved with picking up your script. I would be very tempted to blow his cover right in front of my dr and let the dr give him a wrast of ___. Make him feel like the sneak he is. Shame on him, how disgusting. Its people like him that make things real difficult for people like us with CP. I don't mean to blast you on this subject, but its the truth. You need to get you some kind of a lockbox before your surgery to insure when you need your meds they will be available. I really would hate to think of having surgery and then get home only to find out that someone that is suppose to love & care for me has taken them. Get this done before your surgery, you have time.
Don't worry about the house, it will always be there. Do as one of the others suggested, give each one a list of things they need to do while you are recuperating and make them understand it is their responsibility to get it done. I use to be one them nuts that vacumned the living room as many as three times a day because it had footprints on it. Now, my house is not as clean but its not filthy either. A little dusting would go a long ways right now,lol. But, remember all of this can be done by family and family members coming in to help.
Right now is time for you to chill the best you can and collect yourself. Of course you are scared, who wouldn't be, thats normal. But think about how much better will feel once you are past all of this. Then if you want to clean house once the dr says ok, then have it lol. But not before, ok? I would get my comfortable clothing items situated where I need them. Get lots of lotion or actually body cream is better in the dry months, its seems like surgery dries our skin out so bad. If you like reading, get a good book to read. I call it making my nest lol. Above all, once you are home, do as White Beard suggested, follow your drs instructions to the letter and do not venture off the beaten path. If you try to do things to o soon or do too much you will only knock yourself backwarrds in your recovery and you sure don't want that. Your recuperation time is just as important as the surgery itself. I know for a fact nurses are the worst ones when it comes to taking care of themselves, I think thats just because of the occupation, we will call it a occupational hazard, lol.
Keep us posted on how you are coming along. And start slowing down now so you will be rested up somewhat for the surgery. You will need every ounce of strength you need later. Susie