You are absolutely right honey, you should not have to deal with this, and especially right now. I am concerned that he might take some of your meds post op and you are going to need them. Is there anyone, your aunt maybe, who might be able to come and stay with you, at least for a few days post op and go to the pharmacy to pick up meds for you? You can find those lock boxes/medical safes that I mentioned in some pharmacies, especially mom and pop types, or they may be able to order one for you. You will have to hide the keys, but it will offer you more protection than having to sleep with your pain meds in a pillow case.
As far as the house keeping goes, I'm sure that we all understand that feeling of not being able to do it, yet, at the same time, frustration that our spouses or kids don't chip in to help. You might try making lists for them to do things on certain days and see if that helps.
You will not be able to do those things in the immediate post op period and you don't want to try , because you need to follow your surgeon's instructions.
I wish you the best and you will have to make some decisions about
what to do with your husband and his addiction problems, but right now, you need to focus on you....and getting you through this surgery so that you are in a physical condition to handle it if he does need to leave for a bit.
PLIF/TLIF Fusion w/Instrumentation L4-5 Spondololysthesis L4-5.Laminectomies L4-5, foraminal stenosis L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, herniations L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, central canal stenosis L3-4, L4-5 and L5-S1
POST OP CES 3/30-06
Neurogenic Bladder and Bowel, bilateral numbness legs and feet
Revision for failed Back surgery, pseudoarthrosis L4-5, hemilaminectomies L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, bmp added to revision fusion, replaced two bent screws that were reversing out of vertebrae - August 2, 2007
On going back pain and neuropathic pain, failed back surgery, consult for scs, decided not to do that at this point.
Adhesive Arachnoiditis also......just what I didn't need..9/08- adding bilateral ulnar neuropathy with severe compression to the mix. They want me to see a surgeon for ulnar nerve surgery, but I'm not biting.
I've seen enough surgeons over the last few years.