life is too short

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   Posted 4/9/2009 12:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi, it's been a couple days since I have wrote anything. First, I hope everyone has a wonderful Easter. I have bben working a lot and just trying to survive. Being a nurse has made me too stubborn. When I want treatment, i get impatience, but I am slowly changing. I started the Elavil and Neurontin for my leg pain and back and its been almost 2 months. I am tired but feel better. The Elavil makes me gasey and not hungry. I guess losing a little weight for side effects isnt so bad. I do need another antidepressant I think. I am going to find a new doctor next week. Finances arent good but we are hanging on for dear life. We have to for my two daughters. They know I hurt, but they try to make me happy and thats not hard with them. Life is too short to sit down and give up. A couple weeks ago, I was wishing I was 65 had the bills paid and had grandkids running around the house. Today, I am thinking about today and watching my girls grow up and be able to give them everything they want. Thats why I am working so much. My older daughter wants to go to church camp this summer and its not cheap. We are staying home for Easter, dont know what I will bake but we will have our Easter egg hunt. turn

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   Posted 4/9/2009 5:20 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi CS,
You are so right, it is too short and wishing your life away is a terrable thing I've caught myself doing on ocasion too. There aren't that many years left and they seem to go faster every year so we should treasure every day. Enjoy Easter with your family and thanks for they great eye opening post!
Your friend,
56 years old, Surgury, Radical Prostatectomy 8/20/03, PSA 6.6, Gleason 3 + 3 = 6, Adenocarcinoma extent (moderate) Stage & Margin:T2NOMX, No Metastases, Organ Confined, bone scan: Neg. 3 1/2 years of depression after surgery prior to Hypogonadizm DX, Testosterone Theropy> new 2/6/09> 400mg injections every 2weeks . 56 and so glad to still be here to see my two sons grow up to be fine young men. They are both serving in the US Navy, one on the aircraft carrier USS John Stennis in port in Japan and the other on a Gator Freighter USS Bataan stationed in Norfolk, Va. I am one proud PaPa! 

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   Posted 4/9/2009 8:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi CS-
Sorry to hear you are struggling so. I too am having a hard time with finances, so I'm not sure I have much to offer you. Neurontin does often cause sleepiness, so you are not alone in feeling that way. There are prescription medications to counter that side effect, but they are costly & often not covered by insurance, so I won't suggest those at this time. Maybe you could just up your caffeine intake -- coffee, soda, chocolate, etc. & see if that helps. Also, for the depression, it is not uncommon for women who feel somewhat depressed to have low-ish B-12 levels. Definitely don't go overboard with the B-12, but you can get a low dose B-12 vitamin OTC for a pretty good price if you shop around for deals & use coupons. It does help me quite a bit. I also make sure to drink more water which my neurologist said somehow also helps counter depression a little bit.

Beyond that, I know you want to provide all the best things for your daughter. I think all mothers wish that for their children. But at the end of the day, she will benefit more from having a happier, healthier mother than from going to the best possible camp there is. She may or may not realize that right now, but I promise you in the long run that she really will recognize that you made every decision with her best interests in mind & missing camp will not even come close to making the list of things she wished she could have done. If you need more money to buy medicine or see a doctor/counselor to help you through this tough time, please don't feel like you're being a hero by foregoing those things in favor of costly recreational activities for your kids. Also, keep in mind that many church camps offer scholarships. Perhaps you can talk to the camp directors now to explain your situation and see what kinds of assistance or financing options might be available for you & your family. Sometimes there are even fundraisers (car washes or such) that the kids can participate in to help finance the camp costs.

Easter Blessings,

White Beard
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   Posted 4/11/2009 11:33 AM (GMT -6)   


Have you been getting your pain issues straightened out? Since I haven't seen a post from you in quite awhile I went back and done a refresher by rereading some of you earlier post.  So how have you been doing? Have you got your pain under control? With the way things are now days, I can definitely understand how finances could be a problem for you! Sometime scacrifices have to be made, but I think Frances made some excellent suggestions, your children need a healthier, happier mother more than anything! Nurses have a tendency to take care and look after everyone but themselves! but if the Nurse gets sick who is going to take care of everyone else? Sometimes it is better to take care of yourself so you can take care of the others!

Hope you have a Happy Easter cshelp!

White Beard

  I'm Retired USAF, went back to school and became an RN, and now am on full disalbility!--Degenerative Disc (affecting mostly the thorasic disc but all levels involved), C6/7 laminectomy/diskectomy& fusion, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!) Medications: Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV

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