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   Posted 4/11/2009 12:25 AM (GMT -6)   
We all need to feel safe, that we have a place we can go where we are protected. Maybe it's just with a particular person or a place you love. Maybe it's just being home. What makes you feel the most secure?

For me it's having my husband close by, just that simple. Once he's home from work I feel secure no matter what else happens. Also, I feel safer at night for some reason. But when he's gone there's something about having my dog and cat beside me that gives me that feeling of safety. Silly, I know...but just how I am.

What makes you feel most secure?
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   Posted 4/11/2009 12:30 AM (GMT -6)   
I agree Chutz. My husband is my safe zone. I think hes he-man! Just curling up with him on the love seat or in bed I feel nothing can get me down.

Plus having my teenagers around they laugh and smile so much it puts me to peace.

If I could have a selfish security it would be to be able to live by the ocean and sit on the beach at night listening to the waves.

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   Posted 4/11/2009 3:18 AM (GMT -6)   
I'd say my hubby makes me fel secure as well, so nice to be able to lean on him.
and when he's with me at the doctor's the doctor seems to spend more time with me.
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   Posted 4/11/2009 5:08 AM (GMT -6)   
What makes me safe and secure is snoring in the other room right down
the hall. I see that he's arranged my electric blanket and my maze
of pillows just right. Perfect. He has a water bottle on the bed-side
stand. Here I go.

No more pity party for me, tomorrow it's make up, nice clothes, and a
high spirit. Can I will such a thing? We'll see.

My beautician has a saying posted to her mirror:
There's a $5.00 fine for whining.

Just for tomorrow. I won't complain. I won't worry. I won't stare off. I
will be present for that man.

Good night all.


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   Posted 4/11/2009 11:19 AM (GMT -6)   
I am secure when I am with my husband. When I am having a panic attack, which is rare, thank God, I need to be with him. He is my rock.

I also feel secure in my home. I need to be home when I am having a bad day. Just sitting in my chair or lying in bed with hubby next to me secures me.

Thanks for letting me share.

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   Posted 4/11/2009 11:39 AM (GMT -6)   

Me too, it's totally my husband. He is my knight in shining armour. He is my rock.

I also feel safe in my bedroom and in my bed!!!!


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   Posted 4/11/2009 2:16 PM (GMT -6)   
My husband makes me feel safe too. My favorite place is to be wrapped up in his arms. I feel safe and loved. He has this way he holds me and rubs my head, it puts my to sleep. I wish I could stay there and hide.

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   Posted 4/11/2009 4:53 PM (GMT -6)   
I agree with you all, it is my hubby. As long as he is there, I feel like somehow I'll be O.K., he's takes me to every doctor's visit, every trip to the E.R., he's been the one sitting in the waiting room for hours during every surgery, and I never could have kept going on this long with CP (13 1/2 years) without him.

Sometimes I feel like he gets angry with me when I keep telling him how much I hurt, but I know in my heart he's angry at the person that ran the stop sign and caused my accident, he's angry that no doctor has been able to make it go away, & he's angry that he can't take the pain from me and endure it for me, even just for a little while.


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   Posted 4/12/2009 2:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Before I lost "my" horse, my safe place was with him. Sometimes I would just sit or lay with him in his stall for hours, especially if I was stressed or worried or upset. Other than that it is at home with my dogs, and for whatever reason I feel even more secure when my father is home. He is not home very often, but something about him being home just feels right. Maybe it is because everyone is finally together, so I feel complete.

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