Ok this is so off topic of this forum but I have to vent somewhere.
Its about my 70 yr old father. Alittle history. My mother died about 6 years ago from heart failure. He hardly worked as I was growing up, spent time in prison and was always a pain in the butt. I had a middle class upbringing. My mother was an RN for the state correctional system.
Now that shes gone he has been with either my sister or I. Staying with us expecting us to take care of him. He makes 1600.00 a month on social security which is most of my mothers death benefits to him. He can't stay with my sister any longer because she won't take him in ever again. One morning she woke up and he had a strange woman in his bedroom.
So he stays with me when hes not disappeared for one reason or another. He also goes to a PM doctor and get 150 30 mg morphine a month. Plus he was scamming the VA and getting 120 lortabs a month. The VA found out and cut him off. His PM doctor is shifty. He has no staff and is only is the states 2 weeks a month. Doesn't require any pain diaries or procedures just adjusts medication whenever you say ouch. My dad didn't have a referell to him my dad told him he bought his pain meds off the street.
My dad had a girlfriend who was 29, yes she is an addict, ********** and uses my dad for his money and meds.
He spend easter here. During this time he found out I have a fatal disease. Now he says hes got HIV. Hes one of those people who have to up you any chance they have. Well he's telling my children this (teenagers). Now they are already trying to deal with my illness and he comes along and does this. During the time he was here he sold more of his meds. Had money but told my sister he had none, she felt sorry for him and bought him groceries.
Now hes been beat up 3x now for his medication.
Heres the problem. He ran out of his meds. Now hes wanting mine!!!!!! He tells me I will give you some of mine when I can fill them on Monday. I don't want his meds I want mine. I'm on a contract they can count and drug test me! He doesn't care. What kind of father is that??
I know most of you would say have him committed. If I have to I will. I am just so wore out dealing with my own life its hard to have the strength to deal with his also.
He called my husband 30 minutes ago saying he wants to be picked up. He lives 70 miles away. My husband said NO we have 3 ball games tonight. He then called my sister told her to leave work to get him and he would pay her lost wages. She said no she just took him back out there yesterday. My dad was so mad at her he said he's hitchhike and he hung up.
My question is????? Why didn't he even ask me if he could move back in???? So now he's just going to show up sometime this evening and if I talk to him about it he'll just throw a 4 yr old temper tantrum in front of my whole family.
Sorry for the long post I'm just so MADDDDDDDD and Frustrated!!!!!!
I did some editing to remove a few statements I believe everyone can get the sum of what I deal with. What I removed was details on how terrible of a father he really is.
Chronic Kidney Stones, PKD (Polycystic Kidney Disease), Chronic Kidney Failure, Severe Hypertension, Urological RSD
Post Edited (LLPLUV) : 4/17/2009 1:45:43 PM (GMT-6)