Posted 4/28/2009 8:50 PM (GMT -6)
I remember the post about your husband stealing meds before. I'm sorry to read that he's done it yet again, and just 5 days into your recovery period. He needs treatment, but he will only get that when he hits a bottom that takes away his ability to come home and steal your meds or your childs. And prevents him from getting the money from your account to pay for his habit. You can bet that during the times that he is not taking your meds or your sons, he is getting those drugs somewhere and that somewhere is where your money went.
Right now, you are in no position to "help" him find a bottom other than to have him leave your home. He is not safe, not to be around you, nor to be driving your children. I hate to say this, but I doubt that he is not high when he is driving your children around as well as getting high at home. Sooner or later, an addict can not control when he "needs" his high, and it becomes an around the clock getting high becomes more important than anything else, including the safety of your children. I hope , with all my heart that he truly has not driven with your children in the car while he is/has been/or remotely within any time frame taken any drug.
You just had a fusion and it needs time to heal. You aren't supposed to be doing any bending, lifting or twisting......all of which I'm sure that you have had to do to some extent with taking care of yourself and your children while he is sleeping....please be extra careful. Until that bone grows, you can really hurt yourself now.....so you need to be careful. If you talk to your surgeon, he may be able to write you a prescription for a visiting nurse, or an aide who can come and help take care of you when your mom can't be there. Even if it's just for two hours a day, she can help prepare meals that can be frozen and heated in the microwave...or on the stove or oven. Do you belong to a church? Maybe some of the ladies and gents there would be willing to do the same?
As for what to do with him? I honestly don't know what the answer is......maybe when you are healing better and doing better being on your feet, having some type of intervention for him, that says, either you get treatment and stay clean and sober and employed, or you leave permanently is something for you to consider while you heal now? I don't know how feasible his getting treatment is, but it is essential for you and your children.....especially for your children.
PLIF/TLIF Fusion w/Instrumentation L4-5 Spondololysthesis L4-5.Laminectomies L4-5, foraminal stenosis L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, herniations L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, central canal stenosis L3-4, L4-5 and L5-S1
POST OP CES 3/30-06
Neurogenic Bladder and Bowel, bilateral numbness legs and feet
Revision for failed Back surgery, pseudoarthrosis L4-5, hemilaminectomies L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, bmp added to revision fusion, replaced two bent screws that were reversing out of vertebrae - August 2, 2007
On going back pain and neuropathic pain, failed back surgery, consult for scs, decided not to do that at this point.
Adhesive Arachnoiditis also......just what I didn't need..9/08- adding bilateral ulnar neuropathy with severe compression to the mix. They want me to see a surgeon for ulnar nerve surgery, but I'm not biting.
I've seen enough surgeons over the last few years.