I haven't had to deal with my children stealing my pain meds, but I have dealt with them taking money without permission, typical kid stuff.....and as I told them, it took years for them and us , as their parents to establish that level of trust and it took seconds for them to destroy it by doing what they did. When they asked how they could re-establish trust, I simply told them that their actions would speak volumes for them. That meant that their actions had to match their words. I'm sorry wasn't enough- they had to work around the house to re-earn that money they stole -5.00 one took and the other took 10.00- not much in the big picture, but it was still stealing.....
Once they did that, then it was checking up on them, not something that my husband relished doing, but by doing that, and them doing what they said they were going to do, showing us that they could make the right decisions, and some time, they eventually re-established trust again.
There is no easy way for you to be able to trust your son again.....except by watching his actions from here on out. I'm sorry is the easy part....it's his actions, that are going to matter from here on out. Have you asked him what he feels he needs to do to prove to you that he is trustworthy and that he won't do this again? You might be surprised at his answers. I think you might find out more than you think you might by listening to his replies.
We've tried to teach our kids that they should hold in the highest regard their last name......and their honor. Both of those things are worth far more than just about
anything, in the world....a man and a woman are often judged by how their last name is held in repute in this world, and a man's honor or a woman's for that matter are not something to play with. I'm sure that you understand exactly what I mean and hopefully, your son learned this valuable lesson through this situation.
PLIF/TLIF Fusion w/Instrumentation L4-5 Spondololysthesis L4-5.Laminectomies L4-5, foraminal stenosis L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, herniations L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, central canal stenosis L3-4, L4-5 and L5-S1
POST OP CES 3/30-06
Neurogenic Bladder and Bowel, bilateral numbness legs and feet
Revision for failed Back surgery, pseudoarthrosis L4-5, hemilaminectomies L3-4, L4-5, L5-S1, bmp added to revision fusion, replaced two bent screws that were reversing out of vertebrae - August 2, 2007
On going back pain and neuropathic pain, failed back surgery, consult for scs, decided not to do that at this point.
Adhesive Arachnoiditis also......just what I didn't need..9/08- adding bilateral ulnar neuropathy with severe compression to the mix. They want me to see a surgeon for ulnar nerve surgery, but I'm not biting.
I've seen enough surgeons over the last few years.