I am glad you brought this topic up! This is one that has has caused me grief for a long time! It is especially bad if your at a place where you can not sit down in a comfortable position, or and have any way of finding relief from your pain! This has always been a point of contention between my wife and I! Especially if we are at some doings at one of her relatives house. She is the type of person who wants to be the last person to leave, and I often am ready to leave allot earlier! If we are at something that is local there is not problem as we will each just take our own car and then I can leave when I want. But if we are at one of the "Outlaws" places ( which is usually 50 or 60 miles away from home then we just take one car and go together!) that often presents problems! When your in pain you do not feel like socializing, and I know some of my "outlaws" are more atune to pain problems than others, many of them just don't care, as is often the case with the wife! So after awhile I sometimes just don't go to some of the "doings!" and then I will hear about that! But it is no fun to be at an event and be really "hurting!" I have done that way to often! It comes to point that you just have to do what is right for you!
So Flowers you are not alone with your feelings about this topic! I know exactly how you feel! But you know other people can't see or feel our pain and discomfort, and if you are like most of of use you really don't like showing your misery to others, I know I don't! So I often try and mask my feelings about my pain!
I don't see an easy solution to it, it is just something we have to put up with as being part of having CP I guess! It does help if you have a spouse or partner or some body that recognizes your problems and cares and supports you with dealing with it!
Please try not to feel guility about needing to leave early, you definitely have a legit reason!
Good Luck to You!
I'm Retired USAF, went back to school and became an RN, and now am on full disalbility!--Degenerative Disc (affecting mostly the thorasic disc but all levels involved), C6/7 laminectomy/diskectomy& fusion, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!) Medications: Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV