Thank you all for such a warm welcome :O)
Fatherjohn,
My busy little bumblebees are 5yrs and 8yrs (and Geminis to boot!)
My husband now, is very supportive. Unfortunatly, I lost nearly all contact with my "friends" while struggling with re-learning to live my life (no easy feat, i assure you). It took all that I was as a person to be strong enough to forgive my husband... I was told things , unfortunatly and treated badly for quite some time by all those around me. Out of all I was told.. my favorite..?
"I'm sorry, so sorry Dad (hubbys father), I DO want so much to do all this for him still, but i cannot make my body GO! I dont know why, im sorry I just cant make my darn body go."
"If you could just do whatever it is you need him (hubby) to do and be indifferant about
it that would be great."
Was told to me in refrence to my yelling at hubby for not helping me with yard work (just burning the weeds, i wasnt shooting for an oscar his first time out)....
By the time he realized the doctors couldnt "just fix" something they called levoscoliosis.. ( a "structural" problem they said) I had already been recieving treatment for a year. There he was crying to my spine specialist. There I was wondering where the heck hes been.. wadda re ya NEW?
In any case, I was very plain. I told him that I was sorry I couldnt be the person that he needed, if he wanted out of the marriage I completly understood. I would miss him very much. But that I really would be very happy to live in a lil apartment with too many cats. BLISS! I tell you.
In anycase since then hes been increadibly supportive and it seems, now, like weve.. I donno, Accomplished something, like there are no boundries no matter what. And here I go on rambling again.. Im so sorry I do that alot.
:O)
So to answer your question , yes, he is very supportive now. My lil girls arnt completly in the dark either.. but whats goin on with mommy is explained in terms they can understand. They know my doctor and like him very much. They know mommy has to visit the doctor and that he gives mommy special medacine so we can play and have fun. More recently, I have been letting them help in preperation of "mommy s medacine appointments" (spine injections). Im usually down and in bed for a day.. and I dont mean to put my poor hubby down, but oh my goodness how does one start THAT many fires in the kitchen?? Hes up to x3 now! safer for the whole neighborhood I prepare the meals ahead of time... besides the girls make a tedious chore much more fun :O)
*huggs*
dani
| TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood, |
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| And sorry I could not travel both |
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| And be one traveler, long I stood |