Back when I was in the military and I was in Alaska, and I was having severe pain in my Left arm and neck, it felt like when you hit your crazy bone, and it makes your hand an fingers burn like fire, and it hurts so bad, but for me, it just would not stop! And it was like that 24/7 and nobody could find out what was causing it! I was sent to an Army orthopedic surgeon, and he accused me of malingering, and said it was all in my head and I wanted the pain so I could get out of work. I was a Branch Chief of the A-10 Flight Simulator, and had 25 or so people working for me! If I wanted to get out of work I could just assign the work to somebody else! Anyway I was sent to a Psychiatrist I was mad as Hell about it, but just to prove that this Doctor was wrong and did not know what he was talking about, I made an appointment and went and under went all their testing, and afterwards I was told they did not believe that the problem was in my "head" but felt I had a genuine medical problem! Which in a couple of months it was found that I had a massive herniated disc at C6/7 with free floating fragments in my spinal canal! After that was discovered I had emerengcy surgery ( at a civilian hospital in Anchorage) The neurosurgeon said after the surgery he just could not understand why I wasn't a quadriplegic with all the damage that I had. And he further stated that any competent orthopedic surgeon should have caught this right away. When I told him that the Army Orhtopedic surgeon sent me to the Schrink, he was completely astounded at the incompetence of that Doctor! What you have posted, has angered me and brought back a flood of unpleasant memories!
Skeye I do understand your hurt and disappointment and especially since it was your father telling you this! Prove him wrong! Make an appointment with a psychiatrist, and go to him, if they want to do psych testing do it! You have absolutely nothing to lose, and everything to gain. If your father is right ( which I really don't believe he is) then you will get the proper treatment. If what I suspect is true, and he is wrong, then that will just eliminate one area of possible debate! It is a win, win situation for you! And it just might make the other Doctors look even harder into your problem! I know that you should not have to do that, I have been there and have done that! But honestly it is the only way you are going to remove that possibility! And your Fathers doubt about you! I know I felt it was going to mark me as a Psych case, but it doesn't! I personally think and feel it is just an easy way out for a Doctor to push somebody off as a Psych case! I know that is not what your Father is doing, but I don't think he is being objective with you either, he can't be, he has to have a bias, he's your father! And even with what he said he is thinking, please remember he is probably frustrated just like you are, and he wants to have an answer to your problem! I am sure that he Loves you very very much! and what he is saying although seemingly betraying you, (HE IS NOT!!!)! he is just trying to find an answer to your problem! I personally think he is wrong, but rmember I am seeing your situation out of my eyes, and filtered by my experiences. So I completely empathize with you!
So Skeye prove him wrong! See a Psychiatrist, jump through those hoops and get it out of the way, but also continue searching for answers to your problem. Don't give up or give in!
You have my support Skeye, I am sorry for your experience today, and I do understand your frustration! Please do not lose trust in your Father, I am sure that he is really on your side, but remember whether he is a Doctor, your hero, your best friend and person you trust and confide in, he is your Father and he like you and me and everyone else, is only HUMAN! And being human we can make mistakes, and even if it turns out he is right, I don't think he handled it right. But he still is human and he like all the rest of us can make mistakes!
Skeye as a father of two daughters, and with my past experiences, you can't imagine how I feel for you! Please give your father the benefit of the doubt! I do wish you all the best!
My Heart goes out to you Skeye!
I'm Retired USAF, went back to school and became an RN, and now am on full disalbility!--Degenerative Disc (affecting mostly the thorasic disc but all levels involved), C6/7 laminectomy/diskectomy& fusion, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!) Medications: Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV