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   Posted 6/16/2009 12:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Do you like being around people? Most folks do but we all have our preferences. Do you prefer large crowds or small gatherings? Large may be walking through a mall or attending an event. My idea of a small gathering is with friends, neighbors or family.

For me the smaller the crowd the better I do. As someone with fibro crowds and loud noised aren't for me. Plus I much prefer the intimacy of one person than hundreds of people I don't know. But my kids all think I'm crazy and a loner...sheesh, what do they know... tongue

What size of gatherings are you comfortable with?
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   Posted 6/16/2009 5:24 AM (GMT -6)   
I have always been anti-social. My husband would tell you I was wrongf. For three years I was a Kroger Customer Service Manager and dealt with people all day long positive and negative.

I perfer smaller group setting, keeps my panic attacks at a minimium...lol

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   Posted 6/16/2009 6:58 AM (GMT -6)   
I tend to lean twards the smaller gatherings.

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   Posted 6/16/2009 7:20 AM (GMT -6)   

Small gatherings for sure!!  Big crowds overwhelm me!


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   Posted 6/16/2009 7:59 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm with all of you. I prefer a small group. And even then I get a little nervous sometimes. I love showers and small birthday parties for the granddaughters, but that's about it. I am a homebody and I like it that way.

Thanks for letting me share!!

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   Posted 6/16/2009 9:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Smaller groups, although I used to be an Instructor for the Red Cross, so bigger crowds also don't bother me as much as they used to. You can't stand in the front of a classroom full of strangers for long if you don't like groups.....LOL
In fact, when they first asked me to become an Instructor, I almost threw up at the thought of having to stand up and speak before a large group.....
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   Posted 6/16/2009 1:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Most comfortable alone, but I suppose small groups.
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   Posted 6/16/2009 1:39 PM (GMT -6)   
I prefer small groups. I have always had difficulty with socializing in large groups of strangers. Many years ago I gave presentations to large groups of people professionally but now I doubt that I could or want to do that at all. I think being in constant pain will make anyone sort of an introvert. Having to focus on pain is such a distraction. Any when you are in serious pain you just want the world to go away.

Good topic for our group.

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   Posted 6/16/2009 2:49 PM (GMT -6)   

Now, I prefer the small setting, a few friends or my family. I cannot stand to be around alot of noise, I just get so darn nervous that I think I will jump clean out of my skin.

However, before getting sick, I was into the large crowd scene. I threw large parties frequently, some of these were just personal parties but I also had many, many business parties held at my home. We put on BarBQ parties or fajita parties most of the time. We always had a great time.  Many of the drs and their staff would call me at work wanting to know when the next party was. Things like this paid off big time in my work. If I needed a medical report like yesterday, it was done and there. Not many people could have a patient be seen that morning and a full blown written report in hand that afternoon. Personally, the way the guzzled my margaritas I think that was the draw lol.


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   Posted 6/16/2009 3:15 PM (GMT -6)   
I don't like crowds. It throughs me into panic attacks,quickly. I enjoy being around my family and a few friends.

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   Posted 6/16/2009 11:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Small crowds! Family and friends are best. I just don't know how to behave in large groups. I can't make small talk for the life of me! I'm most definitely an introvert. The "social gene" skipped over both me & my parents. My sister, my aunt, and my grandmother, on the other hand, are social butterflies!


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   Posted 6/17/2009 8:24 AM (GMT -6)   
I deal with large crowds best, of up to about 3. But I can deal with up to 10 if I absolutely must.

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   Posted 6/17/2009 12:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Before CP entered my life, I would enjoy all types of settings. Small groups, large (like going to concerts and such), or just being alone. I think my favorite might be being alone now, but I don't think that's a good thing.

I was just thinking how posting here helps me to feel less alone. I feel like I'm talking to good friends almost in person, and that is a great feeling!

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