Hello Ryan and welcome to Healing Well. I applaud you for seeking out ways to help with your girlfriends's problems. Obviously you care a great deal for her. As you can see there are many of us here in this forum dealing with pain every day, trying to cope and get by. We come here to vent, learn new tips and pointers that may help us out with our situation. The life of a CP patient can be a lonely life no doubt, but its like anything else we are handed in this life, its what we make of it.
I really think you girlfriend is in dire need of professional to learn how to come to terms with what is going on in her life. Because we may need help from time to time does not mean that we are weak people. I think when CP first hits alot of us we do tend to concentrate more on the pain than anything. But, at some point you have to make decisions on how you want to handle the pain and how to make a new life for yourself it comes to that. I never want to give into pain, ever. In many ways I have already lost alot of time from my life that cannot be given back. Instead I chose to go forward, not backward. It sounds like you are having a very difficult time getting her to accept any kind of recommendations at this point. Does she have family close by that may be of help, are they aware of how bad things are going for her? What about friends, anyone there that may be able to help. I will only say this, if she is not willing to help herself then no matter what you attempt to do for her, its not going to be of much help. Now some of the people on here may disagree with that statement, but thats fine. No one can be forced to do anything. But, in all honesty she has to be willing to help herself.
She is very lucky to have you wanting to help her. Many times, friends and family tend to step back after awhile because they do get tired of hearing about how bad it can be. It does get old after awhile, I don't care who it is. I have lost many friends due to CP mainly because I was not able to participate in alot of the things that we normally did. But, I did not expect them to stop everything for me either, that would have been unrealistic and unfair.
I really do not think I am being of much help here to you, except to say I think its wonderful that you are trying to find ways to help her. Depression is so common with CP, they kind of go hand in hand. She needs to learn somehow to accept things and move on to the next level, but this is her decision not yours.
Good luck and please hang out here with us. We have a great group of people on this forum and I am so glad you found us.
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crohns disease dx 2002 & small bowel resection, still looking for remission whatever that is, chronic pain 22 yrs, added ulcerative colitis 6-05 to the mix, high blood pressure 28 yrs, aortic heart valve insuffiency, depression, osteoarthritis, osteoporosis lumbar spine, scoliosis lumbar spine, peripheral neuropathy hands & feet, COPD & on oxygen therapy, lupus & decreased circulation in both legs. Swveral other health issues just not enough roo to list it all. Too many surgeries to list and too many medications to list. Currently on 16 different daily medications. Intrathecal pain pump implanted June 05.