Haircuts, Laundry & Pain, oh my!

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   Posted 7/13/2009 9:14 AM (GMT -6)   
okay, so it was my turn to over-do this weekend, apparently.

i went to the salon school on Saturday to get my hair cut. it took the poor girl 3.5 hours to cut my hair. she kept missing things & had to have the instructors come over & fix what she did. my hair looks great, but man, what a price to pay!

then i decided i needed to get caught up on all my laundry last night. i did, but needless to say, now i can barely move. i am in horrible pain & am supposed to be arriving to work right now -- i guess i'll be late. :(

i'd call in, except i have a meanie boss who's policy is "if you're not dead, you better be at work". i do have an appointment to see my PM next week, but honestly i don't know how i'm going to make it until then. the only position that's comfortable is curled up in a little ball.

uuuggghhh! what a mess! i really don't know what i'm going to do! i feel so dumb for trying to take on so much in one weekend. i got a lot done, but now i'm paying for it in spades.

i just want to scream from all the pain. i was doing so well. i just hope i haven't screwed anything up for the long-term. my PM has been talking about doing a 3rd RF at L4 (my prior 2 were at L5 & S1). he wanted to do 3 at a time, but had a hard enough time talking my insurance company into covering 2 at a time. what is with these sadistic insurance nurses always saying that patients don't need the care their doctor is recommending?

idk. maybe i did only need 2 & needed to then be more realistic about my limitations. i've just been feeling so happy & full of energy since i started the Synthroid (for hypothyroidism) that i've started getting together with friends a lot more & taking care of bills & things around the house. before i never even had the energy to over-do, but now i just feel like my pain is holding me back from all i want to accomplish.

okay, well, that's the end of my rant. if anyone wants to commiserate with me or offer any advice (other than to simply not over-do it -- i already know that one, i just don't like it :), i'd appreciate it.

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   Posted 7/13/2009 10:19 AM (GMT -6)   
Wow Frances,
Three and a half hours in a chair for haircut!! Thats nuts, new or not lol. No wonder you are a mess, I don't imagine sitting there knowing she was screwing up caused any undue stress huh, which in turn means pain. Sitting is real had for me-its can get the pain over the moon, even with a pump.
I did your number yesterday, laundry all stinking day long. I still have one load in the dryer and one in the washer. One set of sheets to do and I will be done. I get mad because it takes me so long to do stuff. Its like being at a snail's oace.  You most ly over did it and we are all famous for that. Give things few days and it probably will calm down, its the waiting that gets us.
The husband is going to have to do the mopping today. I will vacumn and dust the rest is his. Mopping and changing sheets on a bed are rough things to do too. 
It was great reading that you finally began to feel better. You were really having a hard time there for months it seemed like. And going out with some friends, woohoo. Try not to get down this will pass. 
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   Posted 7/13/2009 11:00 AM (GMT -6)   
I use to have one of those bosses too, gave him the best years of my life made his company for him while he went off prancing and acting a fool there I was putting in 60 hours a week, had the same work policy "If your not dead, you better be here." Well long story short I quit, and he's dead. I know what it is like to finally have a good day, I had one not to far back and did the same thing as you, paid for it for two weeks but I still had that one good day and that made me happy even though I was having two miserable weeks because of it. I wish you well and hope you feel better real soon, and look at it this way, the laundry is done!! : )

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   Posted 7/13/2009 1:05 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm not going to give you any advice - you already know! But actually, other than the overdoing it stuff, it was good to hear some positives happening. I wasn't sure if you were still working (although I'm sure it's not where you want to be). I wonder how the finances and such are going for you.

But it's GREAT that the synthroid gave you such a boost. You can recover from the pain stuff - with time. Try to think of the fact you're feeling a little better in other ways, and getting out with people.

I'm just going to send you a hug for now!



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   Posted 7/13/2009 5:16 PM (GMT -6)   


The question I have is what kind of hair do you have? Is it made of steel and hard to cut? Or did the person, cut one hair at a time and was being paid by the hour? smilewinkgrin  

 That is a long time to sit in a salon chair! As for laundry it is the folding that really kills me! I have a hard time leaning forward with my hands and arms out, and when I do my back SCREAMS at me!

Straydog  I had to chuckle at your comment about making your husband do the mopping. I used to do all the dusting and vacumning and my wife would scrub the bathrooms and the kitchen. Now of course I do it all.  The floors and the shower/tub and such are a real pain!  When it come to the outside work, I do the main part of the lawn with the rider mower,  and even that I have to take breaks, but she still comes over and does the trim and the hand mowing! Untill we sell the house, we have to keep it looking good,  so it will sell, and anyway she will get her half  when it does, so....... she has to do her part!

Frances I am glad your are feeling better! We all do what you did and over do it! and like you we pay the piper for it! 

Misery Loves company and we can all be your company! yeah

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   Posted 7/13/2009 7:25 PM (GMT -6)   
     Dear Francess!
  Good evening!! *huggs!* Good to see you tonight.  So when do we get to see a new picture of your fablous new hair cut?!?!  scool   I'm afraid I just trimm my own hair in between hair cuts !!yikes usually only 2 to 3times a year professionally cut. 
You guys hear about the robot that ... Domestic Robot that "Sharp" was trying to develop? We could be telling our new robotic friends to "Get those clothes folded!" in the next decade. I think I would call mine Digimaid.   smilewinkgrin  
... and in Francess's case she could tell her robot to stalk her boss with a bull horn   devil  
what is with these sadistic insurance nurses always saying that patients don't need the care their doctor is recommending?
   .....and one to follow the nurses around.....  devil  
    Seriously thou, it would be a blessing if you could get that last RF done. I am a bit jelous. I wanted RF and had really gotten excited to try it. Then a week later they called a said "Nope. No soup for YOU!" okay, not exactly like that, but that was all I heard.
    Not gonna say take it easy. ... But, I will say I hope you make it till your doctor appointment without even more pain adding on.
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And sorry I could not travel both  
And be one traveler, long I stood

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   Posted 7/13/2009 9:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh, you all make me smile. :)

Susie, I just don't care enough about my hair to get worried about it. I just felt so stiff & every time I would tell her I needed to stretch she would roll her eyes at me. I liked the last student I had. She had been in a couple of car accidents & couldn't bear to stand for long periods of time, so she learned to do good haircuts in a hurry. The students always have to check in a lot with their teachers. The thing is that the teachers usually will check the students who they see have done a good job first b/c there isn't much to fix. I used to teach kindergarten, so normally I don't mind being patient, but my back feels differently. :( I could hardly move at the end of it. There's never any need to worry b/c the teachers always do a great job fixing whatever needs fixing (and in any case, it's only hair & will grow back even if they really screw it up horrible) but it just took so long b/c each time I had to wait until the instructors had checked out all the other students' work first before they came to fix what my student-stylist had done. My hair looks super cute, but honestly I would have rather had a crappier haircut & finished 2 hours sooner. oh well. lol.

Thanks for understanding. It is so hard to just want to have fun & get a lot done and I feel sorta okay at the time, but gosh today was horrible. I could barely move at work. Thank God my clients are such nice, compassionate people. It was a little annoying having them fret over me, but at least it meant I got to sit for most of the day.

I have been making a lot of progress with the PT. I have been able to start walking a block or two with my co-workers during lunchtime, able to take care of a few chores at home after work, able to slowly go down stairs & very slowly go up stairs. I have been building up strength to be able to lift a full grocery bag & can sometimes even bathe & wash my hair in the same shower (oh, the simple joys in life!). So in that regard, I have been making good progress -- I just think between the haircut, driving out to check on my parents' house while they're on vacation, heading downtown to the library, getting my hairs cut (one at a time, as WhiteBeard says) and doing all the laundry -- including 40 minutes of handwashing all of my special care clothes, just put me WAY, WAY over the edge. As for the finances, they are really not good. My evil bank has been pushing back the foreclosure process. I just wish I could be done with this all & move on. I've decided to go back to school. I want to get an M.A. in Peace Studies, with a concentration in Conflict Resolution & Micro-enterprise. The problem is that even if I can get my back problems under control and win a scholarship (which are both looking fairly promising), all of the financial troubles from 2 years ago still haunt me to this day. I am so far under water, but there's just not much I can do about it right now. I am meeting with the bank, Freddie Mac, my PMI company & a volunteer with the Chicago Bar at this housing seminar at the end of the month. Hopefully something good will come of that so that these past problems don't continue to haunt me forever. Otherwise, I guess I need to start praying hard that the market turns around by 2011 so I can see my evil home & head off to Rwanda. :)

I keep praying that things could start to turn around for you too. Hey, if they can turn around for me, I'm not counting you out yet. :)

Thanks for being my company. :) She kinda did cut one hair at a time. She started by cutting off 5 inches from my hair. Now, usually when the stylists do that, they just kinda do a rough cut with a large pair of scissors. No need to be perfect, it's getting another couple inches cut off it anyways. But this gal says that she needs an "even base" to cut off of. Makes no sense. She doesn't get paid at all b/c she's a student & the clients pay based on the length of their hair when they come in. I usually tip the students 25% b/c I know they not only get no salary or cut of the fee, but they also have to pay their practicum fees which are not cheap. But I was just in so much pain by the end of it all that I tipped her 18%.

Wishing you all a low-pain day!
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Post Edited (Frances_2008) : 7/13/2009 9:24:32 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 7/13/2009 10:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Frances, I am sorry for your increase in pain. It is so aggravating to do certain chores when you feel like you can only to pay for it for the next severl days!!! I know that one all too well myself!! I am learning about living within my limitations,finally. That is so hard to do. For me, when I do a chore for example, I will do a little and sit down for a while. I have to do it like that. One day, I made tuna fish and cut up a watermelon. Doesn't sound too much, does it? Well, I didn't think so at the time. Anyway, when I was finished and finally sat down-when I got back up to get me a drink, I cound hardly move. And it made me mad. I was mad at myself!!! Then I realized that yes, all I did was the tuna fish and cut the watermelon. But I was standing the entire time,without stopping to sit for a while. I put alot in my tuna and then I cut up the whole watermelon and got all the seeds out. Anyway, I guess the point I am trying to make is that I make sure that I do my best not to do too much in a day. It is so hard. We all understand that all too well. And some days, we do more than on other days. It helps me to pace myself and do things slower than I would normally do.

I have rambled on too much. I hope that all that made sense. I know you know all these things. It is hard not to over do it too much. But it is something we have to consistently work with.

I do hope that you start to feel better soon. I am sorry you have been hurting. And for a haircut to take that long... You are a better woman than I would have been!!!lol I understand they have to learn. And I think it is good to go there. I haven't really thought about it much, myself. And we have beauty schools here. Take care, and again get better soon.

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   Posted 7/14/2009 8:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Frances,

I'm sorry to hear that you aren't feeling great! How easily one "good day" can turn into a (or multiple) "bad day(s)!" Your story regarding your hair cut reminds me of the one time that I went to a beauty school -- My aunt had given my mother, sister, & I gift certificates for facials. Let me just say that it was the worst experience ever. I don't think my student had any idea what she was doing (although I'm not really sure, since this was also the first & only facial that I have had). I just felt like I was getting slimmed. I'd never felt so slimly, stick, & gross before! I had to take a shower as soon as I got home & it still didn't get rid of all the lotion-stuff they used! turn Never again!

I hope you are feeling better tonight. It sounds like overall you are making slow but steady progress, though! That is certainly something!!

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