I see I have missed allot yesterday, I have a question about what you posted. You wrote:("and wwell yes he cause the bruise, but it's doing better,") .....now are you saying what this sounds like your saying? Because if you are, then I am in complete agreement with PALady, there is never an excuse for spousal abuse absolutely NEVER! It shows, at the very least a complete lack of responsibility and self control on behalf of the person who is doing it, and ....well........possibly allot worse! Has this happened before? Is this an on going thing?
Chart you also said("The 5 hour drive up to my daughters college would be too hard on me, so we had all agree, he'd take me to the send off here and that'd be like my goodbye, so when the day came he said no he wouldn't take me and he stayed at work late....( I don't know why)") .......Your husband did not give you any excuse at all, as to why he would not take you to your daughters send off? Does he often do this type of thing? You post is very disconserting ( I think that is the word I want to use?) Anyway it makes me very concerned for you!
Chart considering what I am going through right now I am probably the last one on earth to be giving you advice about marital problems, but I am going to anyway! Please!, Please! do go and seek the advice of a professional counselor, if your husband won't go with you. then go by yourself! But do Go! Do it for you! You owe it to yourself! No one should have to suffer violence or abuse from their spouse! That type of behavior is unacceptable and should never be tolerated! I just can't stress that enough!
I wish you well Chart! I do hope everything turns out alright for you!
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I'm Retired USAF, went back to school and became an RN, and now am on full disalbility!--Degenerative Disc (affecting mostly the thorasic disc but all levels involved), C6/7 laminectomy/diskectomy& fusion, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!) Medications: Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV