Good morning *huggs* I hope you are sleeping in today. It looks like you were up late
I remember when I was told there was no way my body would be the same ever again. That despite their best efforts they did not know why. I was devistated. My husband? Denial. Big time denial. This is how the conversation went a YEAR later.
"Is she ever gonna feel better?" He asks my spine specialist
"She has a structural problem and we do not know the casue. She is as comfortable as possible." says Dr.
A YEAR later? Did not just take a full year to come to terms with my illness?!?! After therapy?!?! A year of injections and doctor visits, and tests! And it took him a YEAR to land on Earth?!?!?!?!
So... did you know pain psychologists arnt just for us, but our family members too? It is true. well worth bring your spouse to. Once you can both comfortably talk about your illness and all the ways it has impacted your lives together.. You can then begin small goals together. My husband and I also inergrate parts of marriage counseling in to our lives. So things like Policy of Join Agreement, love bank concept, and hobbie sharing are some of the important core values of our marriage.
My husband is not the man I married at all. Not even close. But in the end we both grew not just as individuals but as a core couple unit aswell. I now, really really enjoy the man he has become. Though I think I would have traded my soul to see "spark of life" behind his eyes, once again, during that very very long year. Who knew? I was angry inside and he was angry inside and we both needed each other so badly and didnt know how to get back to "home". All we needed was a few tools and some encouragement.
I am so sorry this is happening to you. And at a time when, frankly, you need support! *huggs* You can look or talk or be anyway you want here with us anytime of day! We care. We understand. You are a vibrant beautiful soul that trys so hard to shine even in the darkest times. You must have so much on your plate! And here you are @ 3am worried about hubby's feelings! If only you could see just how caring and kind you truly are! *warm huggs*