Ways to help Caregivers

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   Posted 8/31/2009 12:31 AM (GMT -6)   
There have been several threads dealing with the issues of relationships, incidents and roles of caregivers. In light of this, I thought it would be great to give people ideas on how to bless those who care for them. I know we have some who are single but even with some, you have freinds or families that do things for you at different levels at different times.
Communication could be a major factor. At times, the communication lines get stretched or severed and that brings even more stress. Finding ways of healing or maximizing the ability to communicate on a real level could be important. Sharing expectations and desires is important. I teach our students that unmet expectations equals conflict. Sometimes being able to define and verbalize what our expectations of each other can help.
I mentioned to CCL in a post today that as a pastor, I developed helping hands in our churches where people volunteer to help others. People in or outside the church could call and then we would contact people to help meet the needs presented. Sometimes, having someone bring in a meal once a week or so could be a great relief on a care giver. Finding people who are willing to give rides to appointments could be more that appreciated. We have a group of women who would go and clean a home, no money charged, just to help someone. Men who had yard work ability to working on cars were put to use to help elderly or a single mom who had no idea what to do. I know there are organizations out there including churches that could be utilized. As I told CCL, I am not that important but I have many contacts in many cities that could be used. Sometimes we just need to ask.
There are unique ways to make a caregiver recognition which is not always expected but sure makes them feel appreciated. I think it would be extremely important to show our caregivers, whatever level they help us that what they do is in some cases even a life saver. We have some creative minds here and we can probably come up with many great ideas.

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   Posted 8/31/2009 5:42 AM (GMT -6)   
While working as a home health aide I wasn't supposed to accept gifts from my clients but some of them were so appreciative of what I did for them that I didn't want to hurt their feelings by not accepting and they would insist I have them. One client was very ill but she would sew to keep her mind off of her pain. She made me a bag to carry my books and whatnot when I walked to the library. Another would give me an occasional jar of her strawberry freezer jam (mmmm). These were not big expensive items but they showed how much they cared about me too.

I do miss not being able to help all of my clients anymore but do stay in touch with many of them.
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   Posted 8/31/2009 6:09 AM (GMT -6)   
I spent 5 years working as a behavioral specialist and habilitation aide dealing with the developmentally disabled. What I always found most touching was the heartfelt, sincere, thank you's I would get from the families of those people I was helping to reach their full potential in everyday life.

Like Jag said we too were not suppose to accept gifts but some of the family members would literally force you to take them. Only one time was it ever something I would call extravagant. Most of the time it was something "simple" like a batch of cookies or maybe a $5 gift certificate to Mc Donalds or something like that. The one time it went way beyond that was when I left that job to take a new position. This one family gave me a new wallet and inside was $200. Of course I did not find the money until later when I was putting all my cards and things in it as they had hidden the money.

This was over 10 years ago, and today it is really the "legacy" I left behind that has been the greatest reward. I see many of those I worked with now living on their own, doing better than I ever dreamed, and special is that they all remember me and always have to come up and say "Hi" and tell me all about what they are doing and how much they miss me.

I guess the moral of the story is when it comes to appreciating caregivers it is not what you do to show how much their time and help mean to you it is doing it.
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