Posted 10/23/2009 11:59 PM (GMT -6)
We have missed you my friend. One thing I can suggest from experience is not to share very much with others who really have no need to know. Let me explain a bit.
Of course your wife needs to know. You are a team, one person in two bodies and your Angel! But as far as the rest of the family goes, I have found that if I tell someone about my pain or condition that all I usually hear is how awful THEIR pain is like it's a contest. Plus my confidential comments to a family member will make it cross country faster than a good internet joke!...lol
How much do they really need to know? Do they WANT to understand? Or do they want to 'fix' you or see that you are made whole again like you used to be? I don't mean to be rude to any family members...I don't even know them...but will it help or hurt you to share details of your health with them? If you think it will only be bad, then I suggest not sharing.
Think about surrounding yourself with people who bring your spirits up! It might involve some real changes in your life but what I think I might be hearing from you is that you feel like you are in a miserable rut and stuck for life. Maybe?? If so you are NOT stuck if you choose not to be. I will be hard, but you can get out from under the hurtful comments. If you do choose to share then what they need is education. Get them some simple books on chronic pain, steer them to Healing Well and let them see what it's like around here, or better yet, take them one at a time to your doctor appointments. Let the doc know what's up and he'll make sure he gets their attention.
Another thing I would do if I were you is to get yourself involved in a hobby or some sort. You need something to bring your spirits up! One thing that helps me the most is to help others..like here on the forum. I take time to greet people and share my experiences in hopes that maybe just one person might have less pain because of something I said. Or maybe you'd like to volunteer at a simple job like at a local library for a couple of hours a month. Get busy living your life! It's out there still...all you have to do it go get it and it's possible even with the pain...I promise.