Screaming Eagle my friend I Thank-You from the bottom of my heart for making this post and for all the Great Fantastic Information that everyone has contributed! I have been very very hesitant about
posting on this thread, this is a very sensitive topic for me, I do thank you for showing the courage to start this thread!
For a long time just the CP was the problem for me not the lack of desire or anything but with Pain becoming so intense that it would become impossible to attain completion. I had found most Doctors were very uncomfortable talking with me about
it and was no help at all resolving it. And although I have always been very sensitive to to my wifes needs and making sure that they were always satisfied, it still caused major difficulities and problems in our marriage, especially when making love caused extreme pain and muscle spasms! It is not only uncomfortable for me having them, it definitely puts an end to it all really quickly if you know what I mean. But was not comfortable or pleasant for my spouse to see me that way either! I know or at least I think I know that this was a contributing factor in the demise of our marriage, as she had decided she did not want to cause me pain, and she said she hated to see me have those muscle spasms in my back, so her answer to the problem, ( since the Doctors had no answers) was not to be intimate or make love any more! Granted I know that there is much much, more to my separation and divorce, but this contributed allot to my filing, I can't begin to tell you how much I miss that closeness and intimacy, I think sex is a very gratifying and important part of marriage, and I think it helps bind the marriage and keep couples close, and together!!! And the lack of it can definitely contribute to couples drifting apart, at least I feel it did for us! And increasing the pain meds and the antispasmodics to help relieve the pain and spasms just compounds the problem by lowering the libido! I do wish more Doctors were more sensitive and concerned about
this very touchy but yet very important part of the lives of us suffering with Chronic Pain. As it really does make me very very angry at the way I have been treated over the years by so many Doctors about
this important subject!
Moderator Chronic Pain
I'm Retired USAF, went back to school and became an RN, and now am on full disalbility!-- DDD, With herniated Disk at T-12 and L4-5. C5-C6 ACDF in Sep 2009, C6-C7 ACDF in Mar 1985, Osteoarthritis, Ulcerative colitis, Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Complex Sleep Apnea, and host of other things to spice up my life!(NOT!) Medications: Oxycontin, Percocet, Baclofen, Sulfasalazine, Metoprolol, Folic Acid, Supplemental O2 at 3lpm with VPAP Adapt SV