Hello to all, and Thank you soo much for the much thought out replies here. I'm going to go backwards here with the replies, so here goes.
Melissa: good to see you back from your trip and I hope you had a wonderful time. I too experienced the complete stopping of my sex drive, and noticed it right away. It was so shocking to me, as I thought I was never going to have a problem like this. It is hard to want to please your spouce, and yet have no real starting place, because its just not there mentally. Very weird to me! I had to laugh about the movement you mentioned, cause I have the same problem now, all I can do is grunt and groan, as I try to move around, and I look like I'm in pain all the time. My wife has been such a champ about all of this.
White Beard: I think your post touched me the most, and I feel your pain. You are such a pillar of strength and wisdom here on the forum, and to see you melt with memorys of the past is heart breaking to me and I'm sure many others here as well. I think this is something that needs to be addressed here on the forums, and Chutz if your reading this, you certianlly have my blessing to post some kind of information reguarding this topic here. I think it would be best that the moderators make the decession where best to do this. White Beard, I have no problem talking about this here, if it will help other members who are dealing with this. I can tell by the high number, that many have looked at this thread, so I'm a guessing it is somewhat of a problem, not talked about too often. I can't tell you how many times, I have cramped up in bed and my wife wanted to stop on my behalf, and I wanted to go on in her behalf. I don't have all the answers, but I do have a very good relationship with my Dr, and I think early intervention that includes the spouce can do wonders for the marriage. Maybe I just got lucky with the wife that I have, I don't know, but there are other things in the marriage that can be enjoyed together. Sleep could be one of them! Dont see much fussing going on while we are shareing that! :)
Dani: I will take a hug from you anytime, and it was a pleasure to visit with you a week ago or so.
Privey: yep we do live in the same state! Had a great visit with you as well, and thank you for the well wishes.
Piercings: I too have already tried to back off my meds and plan a special night for me and the wifey. I had success with it, but think I need to talk to my Dr firs before I do too my expermenting with my pain meds.
shoot!.....let me post what I have here so far, and answer more of you in just a bit! :)