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BigLucy
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   Posted 11/16/2009 10:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Had surgery two months ago which triggered my colon diseases (very poor immune system). Pain, can't keep anything in and weak. Surprisingly, I'm not that depressed but bored of the endless recuperation. Really how many books, movies, interneting can one person read/watch? What really sucks is that my mind wants to go out and live life, but body just can't do it right now. So, anybody in the same position right now, what do you do all day to keep yourself occupied. Or, just say hi.

privey
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   Posted 11/16/2009 11:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Lucy,
I went through the same period as you described. I didn't do the tv watching though. I like to crochet and that was a good distraction for me. I also have some high bar stools in the kitchen and I enjoyed cooking using the stool kept me rested and working in the kitchen help with strength building and my appetite.
Good Luck Lucy and I hope things will get better for you. There are books out there that teach you to knit and crochet if you don't know how. I live in KS and right now as winter starts to blow in it is nice to have something warm in my lap.

PAlady
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   Posted 11/16/2009 12:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, Lucy,
Oh, yes, those recuperation periods. For me, sadly, it never ended but that was partly related to being laid off while out on leave (you remember, I think). But still, the loneliness and the boredom get to me. I haven't found answers. I'm still finishing up the remnants of what some might call work (or my past work life). Closing things up by the end of this month. I am not looking forward to winter, but I must admit even on good days I've had trouble forcing myself outside, mostly because like you said the spirit is willing, but the body's not capable of doing what the spirit wants!

I do spend way too much time with the tv on, and probably some would say too much time on the internet, but yet without HW I'd really be lost. I like that Praying made some very small suggestions. Sometimes that's what we need, is a tiny step. I am going to try to motivate myself to do a lot of de-cluttering and organizing over the winter, at least in part to prepare should I have to move, but even if I don't maybe I'll feel better about being here. But it's not exactly fun thinking aobut sorting things!

I have tons - tons - of books around me. Have always loved reading, but with my neck problems curling up with a book has became more painful than it's worth. Audio books are ok, but not the same thing. But I've got this ancient text books no one wants and I'll never use, and I need to create some room on my shelves and I thought if I did I could rearrange and put a few "happy" things there. And I've been taking a very small stack (can't carry many at once!) of like 4 or 5 books and dropping them off at the library for their book sale. It's small but it's a start.

I am rambling all over the place, aren't I? I'm glad you started this thread because maybe we can all help eachother even with tiny ideas. Or, as you said, just to say hi!

Hugs,

PaLady

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 11/16/2009 1:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Dear Lucy,

I am sorry you are bed bound right now. *warm huggs* I sure hope you are able to recover soon, and regain some mobility. You are such a strong caring person, I hope it is only a matter of time before you are ready to take on the world! *huggs*

I can do 10-20mins spurts before I have to sit and drink protein. Like 20min on and 10mins sit. It makes so many things take a looong time. But, I get to sit more and have a new appreciation for the world around me.

In anycase, when I need to sit for a longer peroid of time..... I make jewlery sets. I can sit, set up my supplies and tools on a .. what called.. Dinner tray? Serving tray? And it helped alot. Now I am even entertaining the idea of selling it, if I can get past my shyness? Online there are lots of instructional video on everything from crochet, needle point, to jewlery And who knows? you might have some really nice "christmas gifts"? *warm huggs!!!!* Stay strong!

*huggs*
dani

privey
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   Posted 11/16/2009 1:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Dani,
I'm not want to intrude on Lucy's thread either but the jewelry thing sounds fun. I retired in August 2007 from our small rural hospital. Some of the ladies there make jewelry and sell it. Just an idea. Everyone has to wear name badges and the hot item has been lanyards that they can hang their name badges on and they buy them to go with their work clothing. Might be something for you to get started if you need ideas.

Take Care.

Sherrine
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   Posted 11/16/2009 2:04 PM (GMT -7)   

Lucy, I'm usually over in the Fibromyalgia forum but your thread caught my eye.  I've had several surgeries and suffer from chronic pain, too.  What I did was start researching my family roots!  It has really gotten in my blood now and I'm creating books for my kids with family history in it.  There are several free genealogical site to start your search.  You might be amazed what you find out!

I do hope you are feeling better soon.  I know I hated to be cooped up but this will pass.  In the meantime, you have been given some great ideas to keep you occupied.

Sherrine


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BigLucy
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   Posted 11/16/2009 3:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks everyone for your responses. I actually do a lot of things suggested, especially opening up the windows (if possible) daily and light nice smelling candles, am a sucker for a great candle. The jewerly idea is interesting but may get me into trouble, because I would make things I like and never be able to sell/give them away; I actually have thought of ebay selling, but I get attached to my things and think I may want whatever again someday. Believe it or not I'm actually not a pack rat or a collecter of things, just the things I have took time to get, luckily I was never an impulse shopper--I don't get shoppers high, I actually get anxious about spending money, stems from my mother who was a big saver and, "if you can't pay cash for it, you don't deserve it!" Anyway, having a better day today, so after sitting upright with no problems for a couple hours I got really bored and am attempting--slowly--to clean my kitchen shocked It's almost too overwhelming to think it will ever be really clean like I invision it, you know, sparkly. I do have a question for anyone that may have an answer: how do you get stainless steel streak free?????? I've tried windex, simple green, baking soda and other standards, nothing doing, still streaks. I don't need medication answers, I need household product answers smilewinkgrin

Back to the kitchen!

babycakes-
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   Posted 11/16/2009 5:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Iv been in bed the past few days, and i like to watch DVD's, listen to music, watch TV, read, and as i study by correspondence, when i feel well enough i study. my puppys pretty cool, hes happy to sit and cuddle me :)
and sometimes i bake things, or lay in the sun. my boyfriend puts a pop up bed outside for me to lay on.
im also a clean freak. i like things to be clean, the sheets are washed every three days, i dust and clean the bathroom, lounge &bedroom. the only thing i cant do at the moment is vaccum. its too hard on my poor kidney.
another thing is when im hanging out the washing, we have a picnic table next to the clothesline so i can sit down if i need too.
OOOH. and i play bejeweled, or the sims on computer, i dont know if anyone else does?

i used to draw alot, and make clothes but i havnt for awhile.
XOXO

Mrs. Dani
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   Posted 11/16/2009 7:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Dear Privey & Praying,

I don't know about anyone else, but when I get busy with something my bumblebees are right there wanting to get busy too. So when I dig into my jewlery, my girls make Lanyards and locket key chains for our friends relatives. It is kinda funny see my husband and all his very masculine co-workers sporting the very latest! In lanyards fashions, with sparkling beads, hearts and charms. It really is very cute. So much for the tuff-guy look I never really thought of lanyards as a fashion statment thou, I suppose that would be rather stylish to have "adult designs". Humm, come think of it matching glasses chains could be cute to... I mostly make "full sets" , you know, anklets, earings, necklace and bracelets. I keep meaning to dive into hair fashions... but I get side tracked to easily. Okay, I really shouldnt ramble on, Sorry Lucy!!! I didnt mean to get side tracked!!

Dear Lucy,

how do you get stainless steel streak free??????

Okay, ill tell ya, but no laffing! .
If you talking about stainless bowls, dinner ware (house hold eating items) I use rubbing alochol w/ paper towel. Also works really well on mirrors. Leaves a streak free shine like no other, not even windex +totally safe.

for everything else (kitchen sink, cars, bar-b-que grill).... in the "car section" at the store there is "armour all stianless cleaner", but it is a little costly. Also, "Simple Green stianless cleaner" is good and a little less expensive.

I don't need medication answers, I need household product answers

Not sure what a medication answer is, and hope I didnt give you one of those.

*warm huggs*
dani

privey
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   Posted 11/16/2009 8:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Dani,
Good for you on selling your jewelry I wish I had the patience for that cause I have no bumblebees to
even bother me during the day. My son-in-law's mother makes jewelry and sells it and it is beautiful. I used to love to do ceramics but there isn't anyplace around here to do it but back in the 70's and 80's I would go all the time. Now I'm retired and have time there is noplace to go, go figure.

Goodnight and I care.

PAlady
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   Posted 11/16/2009 9:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Lucy,
BTW how is your recovery coming along? Have you noticed improvemet with your symptoms since the surgery?

Hugs,

PaLady

White Beard
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   Posted 11/16/2009 10:08 PM (GMT -7)   
PALady
I know the last few weeks I was feeling a bit down I think it is the shorter days and the gloomy dank cold fall weather, but what ever the reason, I was letting things go in the house, I am not a super neat freak or any thing but I don't like allot of clutter and and I like it clean. Anyway the past few days I have just had to force my self to pick-up, srtaightend-up, and clean-up the house, a little at a time, but I have mad steady progress at it, it really does help! At least a little, I think! I have even started putting up some of the out door christmas lights, I really don't know why? Maybe it will help sell the house, ( I don't turn them on till after Turkey day) but it is easier to put them up when there isn't snow and really cold weather out side! My Grand Daughter and her family are suppose to come home for Christmas, but this Thanksgiving is really going to be a bummer! Anyway your post about spending to much time with the TV on and Computer reminded me of me and of couse what this whole thread started by Lucy, as I had not been abe to do that much after my surgery that I had the end of September, I was letting thing go and it was driveing me nuts, and that in turn along with everything else I have going on was really getting me depressed! I realized it and I just force myself to do stuff to get myself out of it or try to anyway!

White Beard

BigLucy
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   Posted 11/16/2009 10:48 PM (GMT -7)   
PAlady - recovery from the actual surgery is going well, it's the flare I'm in that's the challenge right now. Bowel disease 101, compromised immune system means that if your body is fighting an illness or physically stressed, it cannot effectively fight an opportunist disease, so I knew I was going to have to deal with bowel problems. A couple of years ago a flu landed me in the hospital for several weeks, not because of the flu, but because my bowel disease(s) took advantage of me being weak, I couldn't even drink water or keep it inside of me--no hydration or nutrition means, well, you can guess. Thanks for asking.

PAlady
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   Posted 11/16/2009 11:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh, those dang immune systems of ours! If only they would get stronger on their own when we need them instead of just the opposite! I know I feel like mine is wasted and I am almost afraid to be around people because I don't want to get sick. I keep toying with a sinus infection which is standard for me.

White Beard - one thing I find is that when you live alone (or rather I should say I because it's only my experience) it's easy to let things go. I really think when there's some other people in the house there's more motivation to stay more organized, even though it might be tougher! I have also learned to get through a lot of holidays alone. If you don't want to be alone on Thanksgiving, there are probably plenty of people who'd love to have you. Or you could invite a few people over - find some other people who are alone and start a new tradition. Another thing to consider is volunteering somewhere to feed the homeless or something similar. Once the day is passed, you'll have made it through your first one. For me it's going to be Christmas this year that will be very different; first time in decades my cousin (who usually hosts everyone0 and her husband are going to visit their now pregnant daughter, who probably should have had the baby by Christmas. My other cousin has to work because of past time she took off.

Lucy we all keep hijacking your thread! Will you have company on the holidays?

PaLady

White Beard
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   Posted 11/16/2009 11:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank-You my dear PALady Your words are comforting, I have thought about volunteering and that just might be a possibility. My big court date is coming up the 1st of December. I will be thinking of you at Christmas PALady!

Lucy I am sorry for hijacking your thread. You said you had your surgery about 2 months ago? You must have had your surgery around the time I had my c5/6 disc fusion which I had on the 28th of September! The recovery time is a real pain I do hope it is going well for you!

White Beard

BigLucy
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   Posted Yesterday 12:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Don't worry about jacking the thread, it has a life of its own. I'm not a fan of the holidays, not going to get into it b/c, well, b/c people who don't like the holidays usually didn't have good ones growing up. I know, I know, try to make it your own, but it's exhausting trying to create something special every year. Most people have family and places to go and I always feel like an intruder, there is nothing more lonely than being at other peoples family festivities. I stopped doing the holiday thing years ago and feel much better, it doesn't create any more anxiety for me. You know every year people I know ask me after the holidays what I did and I usually say, "nothing" and they always say I should have come to their home, like I should have invited myself or something, and the next year comes around and no invitation. Ugh, this all sounds so depressing, but seriously it's not, it's just what it is. If you think about it, who says you need to do anything or participate in anything and feel bad about it if it doesn't fit other peoples expectations. Rambling now. Oh, on Thanksgiving I'm making chicken enchiladas.

PAlady
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   Posted Yesterday 12:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Lucy,
I really understand what you're saying. There are times I honestly don't mind being home and hanging out. When I was working like a crazy lady in my past life, I loved the day off and would have loved to do absolutely nothing rather than run around to everyone's home. I also had my own traditions with my cat when he was with me, so I kind of felt like that was my little family. I know you have animals (Biglucy being one of them, right?), so you're not alone.

And I am completely "with you" about the invitation thing. I am wondering this year if anyone who knows I go to my cousin's every year (it's actually one of the few holidays I DO enjoy because I like the people there) well, if any of them will think to give me a call. But I won't plan on it. And there's always weather to contend with, which is an unknown. If it's a cold, blustery day, I'd really rather be at home nice and warm. And who knows, maybe by Christmas I'll have a feline companion!

You and I can keep HW going! :-)

Hugs,

PaLady

bsjaguar
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   Posted Yesterday 4:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Ohhh, PaLady, I do hope you get a kitty. When my husband is home on the weekends he always laughs when he hears me talking to my cat. During the week it is just Russell & I so we converse alot. He even answers me in his own little kitty voice. It's funny cause he uses the same intonations I do so it sounds like he is really talking.

Big Lucy, after my lumbar fusion I was like you. Alone and not able to do much but when I finally was able to sit at the computer for longer times I started looking on Match.com. I saw a few prospects and they were having a deal for $13.95 per month. So I thought, what have I got to lose. I ended up meeting my husband and have been happily married now for two years. So something good did come of my failed lumbar fusion and he only cost me $13.95.
---Jag---
 
DDD, osteoarthritis, fusion surgeries C-5/7 & L-4/5 both in 2006, torn meniscus left knee 2000 & 2002, buldging disc L-2/3

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