I am sorry that I haven't been around much the last couple of months, I am behind on reading everyone's posts, so this is the first time I've read this one. I am so sorry that your wife insists on making this difficult, and I am very glad to hear that you are not letting her take advantage of you. You do not deserve to be treated this way by anyone, especially someone you were married to for 34 years. I can not imagine the betrayal you must feel.
I hope and pray that things were settled fairly this afternoon and that today is the end of this chapter in your life. I, too, believe that you will find someone that appreciates you, you are a wonderful, kind, caring man and that is not easy to find these days! And by the way, you do not sound at all like you are feeling sorry for yourself, you sound vulnerable and that can be very sexy!